tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post2487273961602337406..comments2024-03-28T19:36:58.558-07:00Comments on Where the Wild Things Were: Unusual Discourse on LoveLydia C. Leehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13911667428856165902noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-87811066413731124842017-02-13T03:50:15.084-08:002017-02-13T03:50:15.084-08:00"Being said""Being said" Kerriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13133434121526517445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-7422422630182487242017-02-13T03:49:40.605-08:002017-02-13T03:49:40.605-08:00I tell my kids all the time that I love them throu...I tell my kids all the time that I love them through words as well as actions. Even when I didn't see two of my daughters for a long part of their life and they were disengage and angry with me I still said it/wrote it/ text it without every expecting it beoodaid in return. Kerriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13133434121526517445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-62518644151364873052017-02-12T20:11:14.662-08:002017-02-12T20:11:14.662-08:00I can say I love you to our kids, grandkids and m...I can say I love you to our kids, grandkids and my spouse. I have never told my dad and I "think" I may have told my mum as she was dying. It was never something that was said in our family. However, it is felt. Thanks for linking up for #lifethisweek 7/52. Next Week: A Pet Story.Denyse Whelan.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16888810644186418559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-24489181616752913512017-02-12T20:03:35.298-08:002017-02-12T20:03:35.298-08:00I suspect that's far more common than you thin...I suspect that's far more common than you think...a lot of people sit in the 'it goes without saying' camp and actually don't say it.Lydia C. Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13911667428856165902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-39427109869749265792017-02-12T19:53:39.043-08:002017-02-12T19:53:39.043-08:00When I think about it I do tell the kids I love th...When I think about it I do tell the kids I love them more than anyone else. And yes, I think it's a protective gesture and also one of hoping it instills the feeling that they feel worthy of love. Thought provoking passage from the book. XxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-85323524013373342472017-02-12T14:25:48.262-08:002017-02-12T14:25:48.262-08:00It's not something I can say. I know that soun...It's not something I can say. I know that sounds weird but I think I've tried to say it to my mum and struggled. I can write it. <br /><br />I can say it to children and do it in response to the declarations of my (now) godson who's five; and my niece when she was young. Debbishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06305239848096384084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-37483885795224209432017-02-12T13:08:48.624-08:002017-02-12T13:08:48.624-08:00I really enjoyed reading this, Lydia. Especially ...I really enjoyed reading this, Lydia. Especially about the need for more common decency.<br /><br />SSG xxxSydney Shop Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05813953421175387706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-71573209056392696752017-02-12T12:12:54.920-08:002017-02-12T12:12:54.920-08:00I agree on both counts- sometimes it is a habit, o...I agree on both counts- sometimes it is a habit, or because you need to hear it back. Sometimes though it creeps up & you think man, I seriously love you. They're often the times you don't say it - when you should.Jo Traceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01096756433952821037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-29046296783260618192014-06-19T05:35:53.479-07:002014-06-19T05:35:53.479-07:00I like what Josefa said, I was thinking along the ...I like what Josefa said, I was thinking along the same lines - that love is always there in the background, it's the lynchpin that holds a relationship together on a fundamental level, but without the day-to-day kindness and common decency, there exists no relationship at all.<br />People often ask 'is love enough?' I'd have to say no, it's not.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-32354959523343069162014-06-18T19:36:34.856-07:002014-06-18T19:36:34.856-07:00I didn't love Slapstick - go with Slaughterhou...I didn't love Slapstick - go with Slaughterhouse 5Lydia C. Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13911667428856165902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-62716008341316991772014-06-18T18:15:38.601-07:002014-06-18T18:15:38.601-07:00This is a really interesting idea. I shall have to...This is a really interesting idea. I shall have to think on this some more. My thoughts are currently unclear. I did add Vonnegut to my reading list, though. xSAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08638559657208851106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-59094396192441287672014-06-17T23:25:52.290-07:002014-06-17T23:25:52.290-07:00Very true, love can become the shadow in our relat...Very true, love can become the shadow in our relationships - common decency and kindness is important, it makes relationships work and is often the thing that is missing when people say the love has been lost xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08678887867911889293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-15017949549950847152014-06-17T19:04:36.105-07:002014-06-17T19:04:36.105-07:00I think that's really nice that you don't ...I think that's really nice that you don't always say it back - it means more then when you do...Lydia C. Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13911667428856165902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-38389849654532475062014-06-17T17:08:55.012-07:002014-06-17T17:08:55.012-07:00We say "I love you" - often - every day ...We say "I love you" - often - every day - all three of us. There are times when I am annoyed with A and he will say it and I won't say it back because we also have a saying that goes "Sometimes you make me so angry I forget how much I love you the rest of the time" - but one the argument is over, it's back to our normal !<br />Have a great day !<br />Me<br />PS - yes, I agree, definitely a different type of post from you !! xoxMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14520543769631877571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-71964838715561951322014-06-17T16:26:51.952-07:002014-06-17T16:26:51.952-07:00Really interesting. I do think "love you"...Really interesting. I do think "love you" gets bandied around too much and in a perfunctory rather than meaningful way. I prefer to show love, rather than spout my feelings all the time.<br />Michelle is right when she says showing 'respect' is more important. All the successful marriages I've observed have this. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10485336856648562197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-77191007870384522942014-06-17T03:46:44.771-07:002014-06-17T03:46:44.771-07:00Don't get me wrong, no judgement on it. I just...Don't get me wrong, no judgement on it. I just thought the idea that you have to say it back is true (and I'd not thought of that before).Lydia C. Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13911667428856165902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-40156244233055477782014-06-17T03:44:44.255-07:002014-06-17T03:44:44.255-07:00That was really interesting. I have a feeling that...That was really interesting. I have a feeling that showing respect is much more important than saying I love you. It's the old actions speak louder than words scenario I thinkMichelle at myslowlivingadventurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18306150914790001757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-80819112513299899412014-06-17T03:38:16.335-07:002014-06-17T03:38:16.335-07:00As always a very thought provoking post. I am big ...As always a very thought provoking post. I am big on I love yous. I say it all the time to my husband and children and even to my friends who I am close to. I want them to know how special they are to me, but perhaps a little part of me - with my husband and kids especially - says it because (as you said above) I need to hear it back. Perhaps we don't need to say it all the time, it should just be shown through our actions. Hmm.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02524009835775611112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-18018955163203489492014-06-17T03:38:15.481-07:002014-06-17T03:38:15.481-07:00I must admit I dislike the 'love you' that...I must admit I dislike the 'love you' that gets thrown around. The "I" is important and gives it more meaning I think. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09651116248452404269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-9566536524221068862014-06-16T23:36:16.645-07:002014-06-16T23:36:16.645-07:00It's quite interesting when you think about it...It's quite interesting when you think about it and start to notice habits...very interesting to notice your parents altering their behaviour...Lydia C. Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13911667428856165902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-87750038536788878562014-06-16T22:32:03.662-07:002014-06-16T22:32:03.662-07:00This is a wee reminder that I need to be a little ...This is a wee reminder that I need to be a little nicer to my husband, this post was meant for me today! Em @ Have A Laugh On Me https://www.blogger.com/profile/13700291835098228738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-19156829663918096892014-06-16T22:07:10.237-07:002014-06-16T22:07:10.237-07:00It's interesting that you talk about love with...It's interesting that you talk about love with our children, Mr 4 has been an force to be reckoned with in shaking up our family. Until he came along my parents very rarely said I love you, but they do it regularly now because it's something Paul and I do with Mr 4. Paul and I don't say love you at the end of every phone call but we do say 'sweet dreams' so I guess that is kind of similar.Tegan Churchillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13437605496110028625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-33667812915994560132014-06-16T19:19:26.241-07:002014-06-16T19:19:26.241-07:00Ha, wrong post for me to comment on! I'm quite...Ha, wrong post for me to comment on! I'm quite anti-love these days, because of the whole taking for granted and associated pain blah blah blah.<br />BUT I will say, that yes I think we tell our kids this because we want them to know it, and we should always do that with everyone we love. Maybe more marriages would survive then. Maybe. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-15505558889312820312014-06-16T18:16:34.563-07:002014-06-16T18:16:34.563-07:00I can't link back to see your blog? Have you a...I can't link back to see your blog? Have you a new one?Lydia C. Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13911667428856165902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-6301992577974527522014-06-16T18:05:10.098-07:002014-06-16T18:05:10.098-07:00I very rarely say "I love you" to my hus...I very rarely say "I love you" to my husband and vice versa, there are other words and actions in which it is implied. we both do say it regularly to our son - and like you say, its to make him feel safe and wanted and loved. Thought provoking piece. :)<br /><br />Hello from #teamIBOTRedDirtCaveGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08629010685748841666noreply@blogger.com