tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post4143922431473935195..comments2024-03-28T19:36:58.558-07:00Comments on Where the Wild Things Were: Undecided - Rules and bad parenting (warning: swearing)Lydia C. Leehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13911667428856165902noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-45467495689734546632014-03-24T21:16:19.544-07:002014-03-24T21:16:19.544-07:00Absolutely not - that is political correctness gon...Absolutely not - that is political correctness gone wrong AGAIN !!! <br />I thought he was going to get into trouble for calling the kid a dick not for saying he didn't want to play with him !!!!<br />I hope he (aka Billy whoever !!) finds kids his own age to play with and leaves your boy alone.<br />Have the best day !<br />MeMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14520543769631877571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-70359177562176185812014-03-22T05:32:23.689-07:002014-03-22T05:32:23.689-07:00yeah super tough one Lydia, I kinda like your appr...yeah super tough one Lydia, I kinda like your approach because why should your son have to put up with someone who is annoying, especially when they are not even in his year level. But then what if we were the parents of the other child? What would we be saying then? I think you should certainly be bringing this up with the school staff and get their assistance.Rhianna https://www.blogger.com/profile/08015224038142499324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-14528718101595054672014-03-21T04:50:18.123-07:002014-03-21T04:50:18.123-07:00The non exclusion thing has the potential to cause...The non exclusion thing has the potential to cause more bullying in my opinion. I mean should a child have to play with another child who is bullying them? I tell my 4 year old that if he doesn't want to play with someone because they are being mean then he doesn't have to. I hate the bullshit stories that we are supposed to tell our kids about the other kid being jealous of them etc when sometimes it's just a case of them being little arseholes. Tegan Churchillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13437605496110028625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-22185289501153187392014-03-21T04:25:52.227-07:002014-03-21T04:25:52.227-07:00I would have a word to the principal, can't hu...I would have a word to the principal, can't hurt. It sounds like this kid is not sure where he fits in and is testing the waters for potential friends. Maybe he has social skill issues due to an autism spectrum thing. Lots of maybes, but not fair that you child is being harassed at school, doesn't make it comfortable for him at all. Why should he have a bad experience because of the non-exclusion thing? Good luck with it :)One Mother Henhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12928028285580684170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-24376019277415007582014-03-21T03:12:25.995-07:002014-03-21T03:12:25.995-07:00I just tell my girl to walk away, but then it'...I just tell my girl to walk away, but then it's hard and not as clear cut as it sounds. And I've told my girl that we don't always have to be friends with everyone, well I had to really, after one of my supposed best friends ditched me, and she started asking questions. Good luck! Em @ Have A Laugh On Me https://www.blogger.com/profile/13700291835098228738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-36376671809020515132014-03-20T21:55:34.082-07:002014-03-20T21:55:34.082-07:00I think the rule is stupid - it's totally PC g...I think the rule is stupid - it's totally PC gone mad.Lydia C. Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13911667428856165902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-10599860631620218312014-03-20T19:16:03.333-07:002014-03-20T19:16:03.333-07:00Lydia, I hear this from Bell too, and it really ba...Lydia, I hear this from Bell too, and it really baffles me! I agree, there's nothing nice about exclusion, but really do they have to be friends with everyone?? It just doesn't seem to portray a realistic view of the world, and is kind of like the "every kid wins a prize" school of thought.<br />Maybe I'm being a bit harsh, but why should our kids have to be made to spend their free time with someone who is annoying? I wouldn't do it, and I don't think they should have to either. <br />Having said this, I think maybe the little guy needs to have one of the teachers look into the fact that he doesn't have other friends in his own grade to play with.<br />Have I explained myself OK, or just babbled? I'm tired!! xxLisa @ Random Acts Of Zenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12184086300616623784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-49300484683299794082014-03-20T19:07:51.975-07:002014-03-20T19:07:51.975-07:00Totally tricky. I don't know what I would do i...Totally tricky. I don't know what I would do in this case. Can your son just sggest he play with kids in his own class?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11142707595298504108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-30691587484077679352014-03-20T16:29:48.469-07:002014-03-20T16:29:48.469-07:00It happens and kids do get excluded when my sons a...It happens and kids do get excluded when my sons are , one twin reports his brother excludes him sometimes. It is hard to know how to deal with it. I teach them to walk away.♥.Trish.♥ Drumboyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13482654455512269065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-27142061566102631302014-03-20T15:47:37.787-07:002014-03-20T15:47:37.787-07:00Hmm that's a tough one because human nature wo...Hmm that's a tough one because human nature would say to just stay away from someone that's annoying. I think you have to look at it at how it would affect you. If someone is going to cause you pain or make you unhappy, then of course you should cut that person out. But in this case, if the person is likely doing it unknowingly, maybe your son can help to advice and see if the person changes for the better...<br /><br />Oh parenting is a toughie for sure!<br /><br />Ai @ <a href="http://www.sakuraharuka.com/%22" rel="nofollow"> Sakura Haruka </a>Ai Sakurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11647203995385379898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-54816557262487219282014-03-20T15:07:50.376-07:002014-03-20T15:07:50.376-07:00I agree with Renee. Maybe he could ask him to stop...I agree with Renee. Maybe he could ask him to stop without being rude or excluding him - I know it's asking a lot of a kid to be so diplomatic! It's a very good question but I'm not sure what the right answer is, sorry.Denise Mooneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13262163235614069851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-30291710962200951722014-03-20T13:49:23.919-07:002014-03-20T13:49:23.919-07:00Hmmm this is a good question. You're obviously...Hmmm this is a good question. You're obviously not going to want to include someone who is being annoying. Considering the rules, maybe your son can say, okay you can hang with us, but you have got to cut it out with poking and being annoying. Maybe it's this kids way of getting noticed and wanting to belong. I'm not sure. Not much help sorry.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02524009835775611112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-16537464647359047592014-03-20T13:16:00.503-07:002014-03-20T13:16:00.503-07:00It's hard to know where to draw the line. Does...It's hard to know where to draw the line. Does the need to include one have to be at the detriment to an entire group? Tricky. I don't know. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04595544769103907056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-49272426977119304292014-03-20T12:55:32.726-07:002014-03-20T12:55:32.726-07:00I reckon it is, it's like 'anti-bully'...I reckon it is, it's like 'anti-bully' gone nuts...Lydia C. Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13911667428856165902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-4159570386643814852014-03-20T12:31:05.562-07:002014-03-20T12:31:05.562-07:00This sounds familiar! My son had a similar issue w...This sounds familiar! My son had a similar issue with a kid last year who was difficult to play with. So I just suggested to him that he pull the kid aside (not in front of the other kids) and just say "Billy*, we find it hard to play with you when you're like this. If you want to play with us you can, but you need to make it easier for us to want you there. How about you ...... or ..... instead". It fixed the problem for a few days, but then Billy* was finding it hard to "not be himself" so he naturally wandered off and started playing with kids who were more like him. It ended up being a win/win because there was no exclusion just a natural transition without anyone feeling excluded. <br />Agree with Sarah too. Having your son have a quiet word with a teacher who may encourage the child to play with kids his own age. <br />LLeanne @ Deep Fried Fruithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00886017636780724635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-80520910515097235202014-03-20T06:48:36.810-07:002014-03-20T06:48:36.810-07:00Umm, umm, umm, I'm stumped ... It does seem li...Umm, umm, umm, I'm stumped ... It does seem like taking inclusion a step too far. Maybe have a quiet word with a teacher, pass the responsibility on?Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04402703967636964187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-5679148479785327402014-03-20T04:06:00.198-07:002014-03-20T04:06:00.198-07:00Haha I love you litle clip,jsut to link up. Cute....Haha I love you litle clip,jsut to link up. Cute. There's always a few kids like that in classes. Hopefully by term two, everyone will find their groove and become more engaged in school. Engaged kids are usually less bothersome. Good luck and cheers for linking.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-85842143473849334072014-03-19T22:05:45.065-07:002014-03-19T22:05:45.065-07:00Ummmmm. Tricky. Can they help him find friends of ...Ummmmm. Tricky. Can they help him find friends of his own year level to play with? Because it sounds like his peers might have already done something along the lines of your advice! No idea what to say, sorry.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15636757667368447102noreply@blogger.com