tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post6180042635121443596..comments2024-03-28T23:39:58.208-07:00Comments on Where the Wild Things Were: What would you do? Other people's kidsLydia C. Leehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13911667428856165902noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-79360123285293183012016-07-29T11:58:03.508-07:002016-07-29T11:58:03.508-07:00This is a tricky one, and I would be really shocke...This is a tricky one, and I would be really shocked if I heard that coming out of a 6 or 7 year olds mouth. Even if I heard it being said by an adult I would still be shocked. It's really hard to know what to do, and I think if I was me I would have been I would have walked away not wanting to interfere, and then the event would have played on my mind all evening. Not that I condone that behaviour or language but wouldn't want to cause a scene. A thoughtful post. Thanks so much for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG this week. Claire xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14981021751023139975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-58202453425200532052016-07-24T14:31:48.100-07:002016-07-24T14:31:48.100-07:00It's hard to even know what to do? I mean it&#...It's hard to even know what to do? I mean it's not your child, and yet the swearing and accompanying violence is disturbing and makes you wonder where he is getting it from. I honestly don't know what I would have done! #MummyMondays linkyDi from Max The Unicornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11332354464530426852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-15885007196833331482016-07-24T14:15:13.519-07:002016-07-24T14:15:13.519-07:00Wow this is such a difficult one. To be honest I ...Wow this is such a difficult one. To be honest I think I would have done the same as you and it would have played on my mind as well.<br /><br />#fortheloveofBLOGNote Me Happyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17870195320557495476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-34184233250932451732016-07-24T08:17:58.382-07:002016-07-24T08:17:58.382-07:00don't think there was enough there to approach...don't think there was enough there to approach the woman or do much of anything. Difficult to just walk away, but I don't see that you had much choice in this particular situation #fortheloveofblogjeremy@thirstydaddyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01221526503939455659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-69354279011233671042016-07-24T03:07:00.990-07:002016-07-24T03:07:00.990-07:00Difficult but I would have probably just said to t...Difficult but I would have probably just said to the child if I was beside them that saying that wasn't very good. Hard to say though not being there but I probably wouldn't have said anything to the person with them if they were not fussed by it.Karin @ Calm to Conniptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04034514765974838579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-86765331271630153682016-07-23T06:52:33.719-07:002016-07-23T06:52:33.719-07:00Like several others said this is a hard one. Where...Like several others said this is a hard one. Where I work in retail, I've had to stop children from running around the store or climbing on things. I always address the child, and then most parents will back up what I say. I'm never had to or even tried to tell a child not to swear, so I have no idea how the parent would react. Paula@The Geeky Shopaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05365995774296567567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-79834725284367637282016-07-21T23:12:16.215-07:002016-07-21T23:12:16.215-07:00I'm not sure what I would have done in that si...I'm not sure what I would have done in that situation if I didn't know the child. Tegan Churchillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13437605496110028625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-49597933213426236242016-07-21T23:12:05.815-07:002016-07-21T23:12:05.815-07:00I'm not sure what I would have done in that si...I'm not sure what I would have done in that situation if I didn't know the child. Tegan Churchillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13437605496110028625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-61605099970809307052016-07-21T21:34:08.110-07:002016-07-21T21:34:08.110-07:00It wasn't the swearing, it was the violence of...It wasn't the swearing, it was the violence of it. I think I was more concerned about where he heard it. I think I may've witnessed people at risk and done nothing. It's still sitting a little uncomfortably with me...(who hits a child?? Especially someone else's?)Lydia C. Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13911667428856165902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-77655662387543227802016-07-21T21:07:57.800-07:002016-07-21T21:07:57.800-07:00Absolutely on no account should you have spoken di...Absolutely on no account should you have spoken directly to the child unless he was actually hurting himself or someone else. Take it up with the mother/nanny, kindly (you really don't know what problems they may have) but never with the child. D and I lived on Norfolk Island once and the locals felt entitled to discipline other people's children including physically. To say the thought of someone else smacking my child upset me is an extreme understatement. Verbally chastising another person's child is almost as bad - Don't even think about it.The Travelling Lindfieldshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06913037078617574735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-40640753588648530582016-07-20T04:21:09.682-07:002016-07-20T04:21:09.682-07:00That's a hard one and I don't have the ans...That's a hard one and I don't have the answer. Often in these cases you are damned if you do and damned if you don't. It certainly sounds odd coming from a 6yo but it's possible it's come from another child at school or TV or something other than direct abuse. I can definitely understand your concern xKirstyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14645347058596682545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-24722030901021060542016-07-19T21:37:31.292-07:002016-07-19T21:37:31.292-07:00Yup, I would be frozen with shock and wondering if...Yup, I would be frozen with shock and wondering if I heard right? Shame the parent/nanny didn't do anything about it.Janet Camillerihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14040750107420193756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-84130836618011857962016-07-19T05:20:43.667-07:002016-07-19T05:20:43.667-07:00I think I would have been just as shocked as you, ...I think I would have been just as shocked as you, and honestly, I don't know what I would have done. I think, especially if my kids were near, I'd ask him not to swear at the least. But it's awfully concerning.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09651116248452404269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-63432722164585980102016-07-19T04:28:31.002-07:002016-07-19T04:28:31.002-07:00Very concerning, but also concerning is the 'n...Very concerning, but also concerning is the 'non response' from the parent/care giver. You would think they would either admonish him by saying that 'we don't speak that way' or at least acknowledge where such talk came from. Sorry that the incident played on your mind so much - you were just an innocent bystander. These ambiguous situations can be hard to handle. Kathy - yinyangmotherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11438958678336755752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-34838732097661608152016-07-19T03:18:20.712-07:002016-07-19T03:18:20.712-07:00SA child safe laws say that if you have any concer...SA child safe laws say that if you have any concern at all, you report it. What the police do with it is up to them, but if you're a mandated reporter, you've got an obligation.<br />Most of us in that situation would not be mandated, but it is a concern. It's highly possible it is just TV, but still, I understand your concern.EssentiallyJesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02372695554793237026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-35093481526509426932016-07-19T01:58:46.587-07:002016-07-19T01:58:46.587-07:00Very tricky and as others have said, it could be s...Very tricky and as others have said, it could be something, that under different circumstances would be a notification to family/community services. In this case, it is the sadness of the boy's behaviour that stands out for you, the person on the sidelines. As it is incredibly sensitive and you (and any other person nearby) probably did the right thing for that time as the child's carer did not seem concerned. A real dilemma alright and you did the right thing forwarning on the post. I hope you are ok too. Denyse #teamIBOTDenyse Whelan.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16888810644186418559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-80042910460699984242016-07-18T20:31:07.764-07:002016-07-18T20:31:07.764-07:00I don't like the sound of that at all. I can s...I don't like the sound of that at all. I can see why it's playing on your mind. Let's hope he picked it up from a game or tv program and not his family. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02524009835775611112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-27351754094441916542016-07-18T16:29:42.537-07:002016-07-18T16:29:42.537-07:00It's very confronting when you see a child dis...It's very confronting when you see a child display such obviously aggressive behaviour - I'm not sure what I would have done either.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14960168630604480939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-83724311975293816642016-07-18T15:57:53.347-07:002016-07-18T15:57:53.347-07:00That's a hard question and I have no idea what...That's a hard question and I have no idea what I would have done. It certainly sounds like something is amiss because children don't normally talk like that unless they have been exposed to it somewhere along the way. xoxMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14520543769631877571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-43427410479324768782016-07-18T15:32:11.224-07:002016-07-18T15:32:11.224-07:00That's a tricky one. I'm not sure I would ...That's a tricky one. I'm not sure I would have been game to get involved. Did the mother/nanny hear and witness the child and not pull him up on it? If so, it kind of suggests that behavious isn't frowned up? Meaning any interference from you probably wouldn't have been appreciated. So hard to tell. I know my sister who is DOCS worker probably would have taken things further. Although I'm unsure if that behaviour warrants mandatory reporting. It certainly raises alarms. Mystery Casehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15204666798327984964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-36014666880586080332016-07-18T14:01:09.589-07:002016-07-18T14:01:09.589-07:00Wow, great question. I am not sure what I would ha...Wow, great question. I am not sure what I would have done, probably been just as shocked as yourself. I guess I would have tried to make eye contact with the carer and see if she heard it, maybe then gauged how she felt. Having said that, if she didn't tell him off, it's obviously ok in that family? Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07760396172298048256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-565929067662950422016-07-18T13:59:58.937-07:002016-07-18T13:59:58.937-07:00Oh, that gives me chills. Your gut instinct is say...Oh, that gives me chills. Your gut instinct is saying everything is not alright. I remember something similar when I was doing some teacher assistance work. A 6 year old boy drew pictures of naked men and women in quite a bit of grown up detail which suggested to me that he was being "exposed" to sexual conduct. I was in a place that I could report it, which I did. I still think of him today and hope that things turned out OK. But hey, I could have just been jumping to conclusions. You just don't know! But it gives me shivers when my gut says that somebody needs to intervene ... Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00886017636780724635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-60167814166821053192016-07-18T13:49:12.936-07:002016-07-18T13:49:12.936-07:00If anything, I'd have asked him not to swear. ...If anything, I'd have asked him not to swear. It's a hard one- probably a tv show or game but who knows?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18418589134744904779noreply@blogger.com