tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post9046999803885774759..comments2024-03-28T14:32:27.694-07:00Comments on Where the Wild Things Were: Peri-empty nestingLydia C. Leehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13911667428856165902noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-19071759090865060492020-03-14T15:18:04.598-07:002020-03-14T15:18:04.598-07:00I have been working a lot more on the last few wee...I have been working a lot more on the last few weeks and am relishing being Laura again rather then just Muuuuuummmm (in a very whingy voice from the kids obviously!) Thanks for linking up with #dreamteamlinkyloopyloulaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07098606500168411245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-71920942373518880652020-03-14T14:03:20.271-07:002020-03-14T14:03:20.271-07:00We are quite a long way off this at the moment, so...We are quite a long way off this at the moment, so to be honest it hasn't crossed my mind until now! Ekk!! I definitely know what my passions are outside of work 'work', so I'm guessing that when I'm not needed nearly so much at home, it will just few up more time to indulge in pastimes. Or at least... I hope it works out that way! Thank you for joining us for the #DreamTeamLinky Annette, 3 Little Buttonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09529533542517938475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-56076725207366664302020-03-11T01:01:00.486-07:002020-03-11T01:01:00.486-07:00I will delete all ads so don't bother - and de...I will delete all ads so don't bother - and def don't bother with ones about weight loss. YAWNLydia C. Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13911667428856165902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-74753471636843753882020-03-11T01:00:24.712-07:002020-03-11T01:00:24.712-07:00Def not just a guy thing. But I do think the men s...Def not just a guy thing. But I do think the men seem to go through it about a decade earlier...just from what I've noticedLydia C. Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13911667428856165902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-30607503190785871332020-03-02T04:19:17.513-08:002020-03-02T04:19:17.513-08:00I'm a few years off from having an empty nest ...I'm a few years off from having an empty nest but I can imagine its a really hard time because suddenly you don't have the never-ending responsibility of having your child there. Even when they are older, I think there must still be the sense of looking out for them and making sure they are ok. Interesting read, thanks for sharing. #TwinklyTuesdayKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09119704484118402139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-45739838530816718802020-02-28T07:44:40.811-08:002020-02-28T07:44:40.811-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00240146587705467884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-56038497989946994792020-02-26T16:04:20.870-08:002020-02-26T16:04:20.870-08:00This definitely makes sense, I would have thought ...This definitely makes sense, I would have thought it's a fairly common phenomenon. Personally, I'm unlikely to ever have this 'issue', as I'm expecting to be my (disabled) child's carer until the end of life.<br />Thanks so much for linking up with #KCACOLS, hope you come back again next time! xSensational Learning with Penguinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03722372510407260358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-13281975028458093462020-02-26T14:18:44.972-08:002020-02-26T14:18:44.972-08:00Not there yet as I'm techncially a geriatric m...Not there yet as I'm techncially a geriatric mum! But sooooo easy to imagine how I will identify with this in 15 years. Thanks for linking up with #stayclassymama loopyloulaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07098606500168411245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-25831562309515442312020-02-26T10:57:42.243-08:002020-02-26T10:57:42.243-08:00I think the mid life crisis is a real thing and no...I think the mid life crisis is a real thing and not just something that guys go through. There comes a time when I think many of us stop and re-evaluate our lives and may not be as satisfied as we feel we should be #twinklytuesdayjeremy@thirstydaddyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01221526503939455659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-41477136143542951132020-02-26T09:19:07.754-08:002020-02-26T09:19:07.754-08:00I have seen this in some friends who have kids old...I have seen this in some friends who have kids older than mine, and it is very much a thing and I am trying to combat that by making an effort to make sure I am happy in my job, going back to uni to do a course and working on my needs a bit and interests so that when my kids start to need me less, it's not such huge shock. We do need to do this, our kids will leave us and we need to be able to find ourselves again. Thanks for sharing with #stayclassymama Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-51831983679614903952020-02-25T06:04:40.634-08:002020-02-25T06:04:40.634-08:00It's so true ... as our kids get bigger, they ...It's so true ... as our kids get bigger, they are not shy about letting you know when you are needed, and when not. And it is important, for our own sanity and sense of identity to both adapt to that, and ground ourselves more in areas of interest. Really interesting post. #KCACOLSEnda Sheppardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07692959874894308515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-90326521794614706782020-02-25T05:17:43.495-08:002020-02-25T05:17:43.495-08:00It's definitely a thing! I call my situation a...It's definitely a thing! I call my situation an empty-ing nest, and it never occurred to me that life would change so much so fast, but I realized at some point that I had all four kids in my home at once for a mere 10 years. Sobering.Michele Morinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03814119096056835884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-67539846718826742162020-02-25T01:17:27.992-08:002020-02-25T01:17:27.992-08:00An interesting post. I have one son who has alread...An interesting post. I have one son who has already finished school and one with a year to go, so basically I am in the bracket you talk about. However, I find the future exciting! I am looking forward to more time to myself, more time to travel - and less time reminding my kids about doing homework!!! #TwinklyTuesday Handmade in Israelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05074180274102087566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-63172429310856129222020-02-24T11:19:24.722-08:002020-02-24T11:19:24.722-08:00Great post, and so true. I think just as you have ...Great post, and so true. I think just as you have to get to know the new you when you become a mum, I think you change again when they are older. #KCACOLSClaire | Life Love & Dirty Disheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00882341402664163581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-38814691012990217232020-02-24T09:25:25.326-08:002020-02-24T09:25:25.326-08:00When all of my kids left home, I was sad for about...When all of my kids left home, I was sad for about 10 minutes. Then I realized how much more free time I had. I tried out some new pursuits and spent more time on old ones. Eventually, we all do find our way. Parenting takes up so much of your time when kids are little. It can be tough to figure out what to do with the time we spent on our children!Meditations in Motionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08406003928113822953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-35592898161060172752020-02-24T01:58:42.749-08:002020-02-24T01:58:42.749-08:00This is a post that I can totally relate to, we ha...This is a post that I can totally relate to, we have an empty nest #anythinggoes@_karendennisKaren Dennishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07604144736510146821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-13393787650374222512020-02-21T16:09:42.674-08:002020-02-21T16:09:42.674-08:00It was really awful. We weren't at risk at all...It was really awful. We weren't at risk at all and it was still overwhelming. It's changed our population, I think.Lydia C. Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13911667428856165902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-37393594564993068242020-02-21T14:17:58.483-08:002020-02-21T14:17:58.483-08:00Some great points but I can imagine that the bushf...Some great points but I can imagine that the bushfires will have had a huge affect. I could not even imagine how tough it must be not being able to go and enjoy the great outdoors for so long and it must have a big impact on everyone’s mental state.<br />#KCACOLSSteve Lucas (Thediaryofdad)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06111312535492415501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-47480656695326080202020-02-19T19:22:57.394-08:002020-02-19T19:22:57.394-08:00The bushfires really affected my frame of mind and...The bushfires really affected my frame of mind and mood. I thought it was just me. Then I went to a talk on Being alive at the Opera House and nearly every speaker was very despondant about the situation with the fires and one even broke down crying and I realised it wasn't just me, as a nation (at least anywhere that got clogged in smoke for months) we've been changed by it. It was a very interesting realisation.Lydia C. Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13911667428856165902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-62407092347843190522020-02-19T12:31:06.605-08:002020-02-19T12:31:06.605-08:00Hi Lydia I never gave much thought to this phase o...Hi Lydia I never gave much thought to this phase of life and I suppose it is like planning for retirement. Women need to plan for the 'empty-nest'. Of course there is so much information out there about 'now is your time' (I've written about that myself) but you make a very valid point - whilst we have been 'mothering' we have changed and are very different women. You have given some great advice as a starting point for soon to be 'empty nesters' and I love the term peri-empty nest it describes this phase of life perfectly. Thanks so much for sharing at #MLSTL and have a great week. Will be sharing on social media. xxSue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15418770845484399102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-1039183818940354792020-02-19T04:39:14.503-08:002020-02-19T04:39:14.503-08:00Visiting from MLSTLVisiting from MLSTLSavoring Sixtyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10064637803694157878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-51275028263899571252020-02-19T04:38:23.048-08:002020-02-19T04:38:23.048-08:00Interesting post. My children have been gone for ...Interesting post. My children have been gone for several years now and it is a bit daunting when you suddenly realize how the once hustle and bustle of a busy house is now quiet and feels empty. I work full time so it helped a lot. My husband I began to reconnect as a couple and took a few day trips, close weekend getaways and date night every Saturday which simply means trying new restaurants or cooking something new together while we watched a movie on TV or danced to some of our favorite songs in the den. Now most of my kids have children of their own and are very involved with their own lives. Once we both retire later this year, we will be more open to getting more involved in our community and things outside the home instead of weekend warriors. Sure, I still miss the hustle bustle but so thankful I was given the opportunity to experience all I did. This worked for us and you will find what works for you. Good luck and hang in there. Savoring Sixtyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10064637803694157878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-14521365162614400982020-02-18T23:28:28.376-08:002020-02-18T23:28:28.376-08:00I understand your post Lydia, particularly the anx...I understand your post Lydia, particularly the anxiety and disturbance the bushfires have had on people. It seems a lot are now through the euphoric good will stage and going downwards, maybe due to lack of adrenaline that they've been on for so long. This combined with that next stage of kids moving on in school and getting ready for flying the nest can be a hard one. A very thought provoking post, thanks, and I don't have the answer either! #mlstlDeb's Worldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12706654888846671781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-57599714286077606452020-02-18T22:12:28.583-08:002020-02-18T22:12:28.583-08:00A few years ago when my kids were in their early 2...A few years ago when my kids were in their early 20s and starting to travel and spend a lot of their time away, I realised that I was going to get really lonely if I didn't find something to occupy my time. My husband works long hours and we can go days without seeing each other because I work shiftwork. I found a few hobbies that I enjoyed and now I feel a lot more satisfied with life. It's definitely a phase we go through - realising our children don't need us as much. They still will need us, but in a different way. Our role is to give them the tools to become independent, functioning adults. Once they're adults our role changes but we're still their mothers! From Christina Henry #MLSTLMidlifestylisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07885738321776869148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119733539095505639.post-41589253295794606792020-02-18T19:08:07.066-08:002020-02-18T19:08:07.066-08:00My kids left home to go to uni in the city when th...My kids left home to go to uni in the city when they were in their late teens. My work has always been something I do to keep the wolf from the door, so I just kept plodding along with it. I think things change when you start asking "am I fulfilled doing this?" and for a lot of us the answer is No - and by the time we hit our 50's our finances often allow us to make choices that we couldn't afford to make when we were supporting the full family unit. I love the freedom that this whole empty nest thing brings with it!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.com