I don't blame the other kids, they can't be friends with everyone, unfortunately kids can be such cruel beings, sometimes without even trying. It's just one of those things. Made more obvious by the carelessness of youth. It's not malicious, just thoughtless. Sometimes you must watch as the other kids all paddle off in the canoe, and just wave from the shore then find someone else.
It is, however, heartbreaking for the mother when you can't actually do anything to change it. You can make a few suggestions but it's the fact I can do nothing to take their pain away that hurts me the most. I want so much to fix it, but I can't.
I guess ultimately, I know that they'll end up fine. It's just watching the bumpy ride to get to that happy, confident adult that I hate.
Sometimes it's so very hard to be a spectator.
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I feel your pain and I'm sure I'll feel it more as my boys get older. It sucks huh.
ReplyDeleteI know exactly what you mean. And when it's adults hurting your child by their thoughtlessness it's even worse because I can't step in and give them a shake say "Wake up - don't you see what you are doing" I have to believe that it's making her a stronger person and hopefully a better person because she will learn how not to treat people.
ReplyDeleteIt hurts that we can't take their pain away and all we can offer is some words and a hug and a kiss. I never realised just how much K enjoyed my hugs until she moved away and they weren't there for her anymore - I think she is sorry for the times when she was wearing her cranky pants and having a hug was too much trouble for her !!!!
I agree-it is hard to watch.
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I agree-it is hard to watch.
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Oh it's hard isn't it! Hang in there. Xx
ReplyDeleteIt's hard to watch and it's even harder to not be able to do anything about it. I guess, it's a big learning curve for everyone involved.
ReplyDeleteIt's so hard not to be able to fix everything for them. Letting go is the hardest part!
ReplyDeleteHang in there mumma!! If only we could make them understand what we know now!!
ReplyDeleteYES! We are going through a similar thing in our house with one of our children being constantly bullied by another at school, sometimes I just wish I could take this child aside and really give him what for! Sending strength and hope xx
ReplyDeleteDo you know what? This is one of my greatest fears for when my son grows up. My heart bounces around outside my chest for him enough as it is, I don't know how I'm going to bear it when I know he's having a hard time with other kids, especially considering he's so sensitive. I've already seen what he's like when other kids don't want to play with him (he's just shy of 4 years old) and it's heart breaking!!!!
ReplyDeleteOh, it's heartbreaking to read this. My boys start school next year and I'm already worried. Nothing has happened and I'm already panicking about how they'll settle in and who they'll get along with. Hope it all works out x
ReplyDeleteIt's so tough when you see your children struggling or making the wrong choice but need to let them deal with it themselves so they learn from the experience. Thanks for linking up with #parentpower
ReplyDeleteI know this well. It's very hard to feel powerless when we want to protect our kids. Not a fun stage for anyone, and a steep learning curve too #parentpower
ReplyDeleteI wish I could go back to my teenage self and tell not to worry about these things. Hindsight is a wonderful thing. Very hard to watch your own kids deal with this. #ParentPower
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