There is no use writing a letter because it doesn't read.
However, I will say to it 'I don't have time to listen to you today' or 'I don't care for your opinion, keep that to yourself'. Then hold my head high and continue on my way.
It was once said to me at a lecture (not to me personally, but I've latched on to it). 'Often you aren't your friend. You don't have to believe everything your brain tells you'.
So if you have a nagging voice that chips away at you, today is the day you tell it to shut up.
To borrow from Kenny Powers, the only reply you ever need is 'That's cos I'm awesome'.
As an aside, in Amy Poehler's Yes, Please!, she writes a lot about this voice, and not listening to it. So maybe that's a better life manual than Eastbound and Down.
Linking with #Blogtober
I've been learning a lot about what to believe and what not to believe from my thoughts too and I see that you are on a similar learning curve.
ReplyDeleteAnd we're old enough to know better!! Took us awhile....
DeleteLearning to get rid of the negative self talk is so so hard. I think we all need to learn to be kinder to ourselves. For me, I started saying it out loud. Once I started saying the things I was thinking out loud, they seemed silly which helped me dismiss them.
ReplyDeleteI did look sort of wierd insulting myself though.
Someone else wrote a blog about saying it out loud (or was that you?). I'm just trying to channel Kanye (or Kenny Powers...heh heh)
DeleteWe all have that nagging voice to varying degrees, I think. I try to remind myself that I would never speak that way to another human being, but it's an ongoing battle.
ReplyDeleteYou ARE awesome! And kick that lying little voice to the kerb. Who needs it?!
ReplyDeleteI have told that voice of mine to shove it today - thanks for the advice (and it's uncanny that we both have the same enemy x)
ReplyDeleteI know that voice. I do my best to drown it out. Tougher some days than others. Loved "Yes, Please" After reading that I made the great decision to quit my dead end job.
ReplyDeleteAh, that voice. I don't have it very much these days and to be honest, I had forgotten all about it. It must be all those times I joke to my kids that 'I'm unreal!' Wow, being silly with myself has really worked. That, or maybe I am just too flat-out to even have an inner voice anymore!
ReplyDeletenegative self talk is the worst, we are most of the time our own worst enemy, I know I have been for most of my life. The last 2 years since getting my voice back has really made me realise how much i was holding myself back, so glad I am learning to not listen to that negative side of myself as much any more. Makes a huge difference to every day ##mummymondays
ReplyDeleteWe really are our own worst enemy sometimes, even though we know better! But at the end of the day WE ARE AWESOME, each and every one of us.
ReplyDeleteStopping by from #MummyMondays. Thanks for linking up.