I was reading a blog by Queer Little Family while doing the link up rounds and they finished with "There isn’t always a cure, but there is often a better." It struck me as the most succinct summary of managing depression, anxiety and many other of life's difficulties. We may be caught up in the terribleness of our situation (external or internal) but that doesn't mean it's forever. We may not alter it at all, but we may work out how to live with it.
I read once that a good thing to say to a suicidal person is not that things will get better, because maybe they won't, but that 'Maybe you won't feel this way tomorrow'. The next day, or even later that day is all we can aim for. The rest is so intangible. So is the past, if we can stop ourselves revisiting it (although that is a topic for another blog).
As you get older, life gets harder in many ways. But life does go on. Finding your new path can be extraordinarily difficult. You can't change the irreversible. You can however, find 'a better'. You can learn to manage the circumstances, mental, physical or external. And more often than not, you can surprise yourself with where you end up.
Linking with #MummyMondays #KCACOLS #Dreamteam #StayClassyMama and #TwinklyTuesday
I leave you with one of my favourite videos from a truly inspirational athlete.
This one is an interview and covers a little more the psychological aspect. Not 'how am I going to live my life without legs, but how am I going to do all the things I need to do without legs?'
Very true and life always have ups and downs but keep going is the key X #twinklytuesday
ReplyDeleteI like to remind myself that nothing is permanent. Like the waves, feelings and events ebb and flow. Savor the good times and hang on through the difficult.
DeleteI LIKE that, thank you. Someone else was blogging about revisiting the past today and it is terribly hard to resist.
ReplyDeleteWhat a great thought and thank you for sharing at #MLSTL. Sometimes it is difficult to see a way forward but what an inspiration Zanardi is. Have a beautiful week Lydia. x
ReplyDeleteThat's really quite profound isn't it? It applies to so many aspects of life - especially when we're caught in that negative or uncertain phase and we wonder if things will change. Nothing is guaranteed, but we do eventually move forward and often the "better" can be more meaningful and more "real" than a "cure" would have been. The easy way out isn't always the best way out.
ReplyDeleteThanks for linking up with us at MLSTL and I've shared on my SM :)
That quote stuck with me as well. It was nice to hear your perspective on that quote too. As someone who has the mental health struggles and now physical issues too, it's definitely something I'm hanging on to right now. #TwinklyTuesday
ReplyDeleteThe way I look at it is like this ... There are some problems we can solve. There are some we can't and we have to learn to live with them. There is never perfection, only near-perfection.
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-- Pradeep
You are always finding new ways to make me think about life. Thanks Lydia. Denyse #mlstl
ReplyDeleteThank you for this thoughtful post, Lydia. Life is much more difficult than I could have imagined, but also more glorious. The darkest moments do pass and often lead to the most growth. #MLSTL
ReplyDeleteSuch a thought provoking post. Really interesting how rewording your sentiments can be more helpful to someone in need. #stayclassymama
ReplyDeleteOh yes, I love this. And I like the idea of a 'better'.
ReplyDeleteOh, I am always telling myself not to start unpacking when I think of negatives in my past. It is easy to delve back into the bad bits and not give credit to the good things that happened. I need to make a list of good things. #openslather
ReplyDeleteThought provoking. Thanks for sharing. #twinklytuesday
ReplyDeleteHi Lydia, Your quote really resonates with me, especially today. There is an Arthritis fundraising walk in our community. I know a little girl with significant Arthritis challenges since she was diagnosed at 2 years old. "Maybe you won't feel this way tomorrow." A thoughtful post:) Erica #MLSTL sharing on SM
ReplyDeleteThat's very true - a good quote #KCACOLS
ReplyDeleteIt's amazing how a quote can inspire us and ignite our minds. Great insight and awesome advice. Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next time.
ReplyDeleteAs you say, that quote/mindset can probably be applied to many different situations in life. For me, I expecially relate to it with regards to my son who's autistic x #KCACOLS
ReplyDeleteI think it is important to have hope but be realistic. I aim to be content rather than happy. Thanks for linking up with stayclassymama
ReplyDeleteYou're right, there isn't always a cure but there are ways to feel better. It is a far more realistic approach to some of life's ailments. Suffering from anxiety myself, my approach is always to take it one day at a time. If I start going beyond that I can feel the panic setting in. It is a great phrase for sure. #KCACOLS
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