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Sunday, 9 June 2013

My Pet Peeves...

I like this post, not because it's great but I do think of it from time to time to try and remind myself when I need to let things go...

"Couldn't resist this link up post prompt for the 'I must confess' link up...I have something peeving me big time today, and while I'm not proud of it, I know it will make me feel better to get it off my chest."

And so I wrote a long, bitter tale of woe. I am SO thankful for the delay before I pressed publish. Writing it all down made me feel better, but rereading it now made me embarrassed. It was so petty and ugly.  "Like the song, it's making me go hmmmm!"

I guess now my pet peeve is really that I hang onto stuff I shouldn't. I read too much into things and I take things personally that I shouldn't. I would like to be a bigger, better person that doesn't let that side of human nature surface. And by that I mean surface for me, not for the impact it has on others - though I guess I should be concerned with that too.

 "I would like to be bigger and shrug it off ...(I just reread that paragraph and it makes me cringe at how petty it is. I'm really not comfortable with this side of my personality - ugly, ugly!)"

"Most of all, I think I would like to not be annoyed by it. I know it's not really a big deal, So I guess this ugly side of my personality peeves me the most. And that is truly a thing that makes me go hmmmmmmm!"

So my pet peeve is also tinged with thankfulness. I am thankful I had the time to calm down and let go, bring everything back into realistic proportions. I am thankful the original post never saw beyond my own eyes (and husband's ears, while he listened to me bitch). As the internet is forever, I am thankful this one had time to make the garbage bin.

The quotes are all that are left of the original post. It was long but spite and hate often is. Scary to think that was in there for quite a few days. Lesson to myself, if in doubt, delete! But give myself time to doubt...

A much less interesting post for you readers, a much better post for me.

27 comments:

  1. I'm a stewer so I feel your pain with hanging onto stuff. I know I 'shouldn't' and it makes me feel worse but I just can't help it.

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  2. Yes, we're our own worst enemy...

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  3. It feels good to let it all out, but even better to then have the self control and wisdom to go "you know what? I don't need to publish this"!

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  4. Yes, I was thinking maybe I should have an unpublished blog...;)

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  5. Well done to have resisted the temptation - I think we all need to do this every now and then!! I often need to reign in my mouth more!

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  6. I struggled with this prompt, after a week of one thing after the other ticking me off and wanting more like needing to let of some steam and vent. I too hit the delete button on my first post and went with something that didn't tick too many others off (I hope) in the process.

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  7. Oh you did what I nearly did too!

    You did well to resist - as did I - and I think ending with being Thankful is awesome!

    Hope you have a fabulous week :)

    MC x

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  8. Good on you for taking the time to read the post over again after the heat of the moment Lydia. At least you were able to get some things off your chest - hoping you're feeling better now!

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  9. Hey Lydia, I am only now (in my 30's) able to stop taking things so personally and stewing or over thinking things. It is a hard habit to break. Especially when you know the other person has no idea you feel so strongly about being wronged or upset. Glad you were able to get things off loaded before you pressed publish

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  10. I have been making a conscious effort this year to not let things get to me. I am finding that even being aware that I have that tendency really helps to curb it.

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  11. I know I hold onto stuff....for years!!! I am starting to realise the only person I am hurting is me. It's a waste of time and it hinders me from moving forward. We will get there :)

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  12. We need to revisit the pet peeves prompt and suggest themes. For instance facebook pet peeves, actually that could fill a blog post on its own. Thanks for linking up.

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    1. Seriously, I could publish a book on my FB peeves!!

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    2. That sounds like an ideal prompt for one of the weeks I'm away - just wish I could join in as well. My biggest peeve with facebook is facebook itself!

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  13. I was actually laying in bed last night and thinking about how much I hate that I still dwell on things that happened over 12 months ago..things that *shouldn't* worry me anymore.

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  14. The internet is SOOO forever, and it's worth remembering. If I worried about all the shit that's going down around me right now I'll be in straight jacket, I just have to let it flow through me or else I'd be a nervous wreck!

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  15. I had a fight with my sister over a bag of potato chips this evening. If that ain't petty, I don't know what is - altho I was *totally* in the right...

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  16. Now I'm really curious about that original post! But yes, you do have to be mindful of what you're willing to post. Sometimes I genuinely need to back away from the internet when I have raging PMS. I feel like TYPING EVERYTHING IN CAPS AND SHOUTING. LOL.

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    1. Yep. This. PMS and the internet do not go together. And I've also discovered that writing out things privately is helpful.

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  17. I'm a big believer in not sending emails or publishing posts in the heat of the moment. So much potential for issues, big and small, later on. I usually apply the sleep on it rule and if I'm still not sure the next morning, get someone else to read it or delete it. Has helped me avoid quite a few awkward moments over the years!

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    1. I don't know where your other comment went but this was from your prompt back in 2013...

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  18. I use to hold onto things but I sm so much better at it now. I think it changed for me because I found I was getting angry with my kids... And I realised that wasn't fair... Keep trying ... Honesty is an amazing quality

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  19. I'm glad you wrote it out even if we never saw it. Sometimes it takes that to realise how petty whatever it was is and how little it really means in the scheme of things. No one is perfect and we all have that not so nice side on occasion even if it only comes out behind closed doors or because of PMS. I try not to hold on to things, or care about them but it depends on who did it. What is that annoying Frozen song ... "Let it go, let it go ..." Sorry now you'll have it stuck in your head like it is in mine.

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  20. I'm working on this in therapy. My psych was amazed that I could remember things I had done over 10 years ago, just for the purpose of torturing myself with them. I was equally amazed that she was able to move through life without a second thought to a lot of things she did/does.

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  21. These things are so confronting. I guess it's just best to accept the fact that we all experience this type of thought and behaviour and none of us are free from the torture of its clutches.

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  22. I think these things are always going to be a work in progress. But also, never discount the therapy of writing it out! Can be so good for you, even if you never publish it.

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