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Monday, 22 October 2018

The arrogance of age must submit to be taught by youth. Edmund Burke

Old people are quick to complain about the millennials but I want to take a moment to defend them.
I think they are smarter than we were, but their ideas often confront our established views.
They are definitely kinder that we were, and less conservative in their values.
While they do things differently to us in their youth, I do think they are the great hope in reversing the damage we've done.
It's no accident that the #MeToo movement has been supported by the young, while the old fight it.
It's no accident the LBGTQI rights are moving forward with a speed like never before.
It's no accident the voices for change seem to get louder and louder as the young jump on board the cause and actively spread the views.

I have spoken before how therapeutic I find music (and dancing) and so I headed to Kygo on Friday, but solo as none of my friends were keen. I found my spot on the floor and merrily danced away. At one point, a tall guy pushed his way in front of me. While we'd not spoken all night, the young (little) guy who had danced next to me the whole time, looked at me concerned and gestured 'do you want me to say something?'. I smiled no, and pushed my way back to my spot, assuming the little guy might get beaten up by the older 'roid-addled meathead, but a little bespectacled old lady would not.

I know I am old, and I know that I don't fit in at these concerts, but I love the music and I've since discovered there is always someone who will dance with me or talk to me. I know they see me as a strange old lady but the fact that they make me feel comfortable is kind. A kindness I may not have offered in MY youth.

If you have seen that hideous tirade on the RyanAir flight, it is an old man creating the racist scene, and when the attendant seems out of his depth, it is the young man in the seat behind them that stands up and intervenes. I presume from the voice that the person filming is also quite young. These people didn't need to get involved, it wasn't their concern, but they chose to defend the woman and right a wrong.

As I sit at dinners and listen to conservative views criticising the foibles of the young, I have to wonder how I ever got to be so old. Why do we stop evolving and stagnate as we age? There is an Irish proverb, 'Praise youth and it will prosper'. Perhaps we need to focus on what they do better than us, instead of what they do differently? Maybe our way was not the right way in the first place?

Youth cannot know how age thinks and feels. But old men are guilty if they forget what it was to be young.
J.K Rowling

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Sunday, 21 October 2018

Fire and Paper

These are not great photos but they are interesting.

"To me, photography is an art of observation. It's about finding something interesting in an ordinary place... I've found it has little to do with the things you see and everything to do with the way you see them." Elliott Erwitt

For the record, they're the confetti cannons and the flame throwers at Kygo...

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Tuesday, 16 October 2018

And then again, she's gone....

I'll be MIA over the next few days as my eldest has her first three days of exams. While I'm not loving life much this week, I am grateful the exams have finally started.

Good luck to the year 12 HSC exam takers around the country. Remember, it's just like the trials except you're more prepared because you've done the trials plus any work you've done since then. So relax!

For the parents, a brilliant article and great conversation to remind your kids that the HSC really only defines the next 3 months and is pretty much irrelevant after that. Also remind your child that the mark is only relevant if they want to go to Uni, and if they do, there are many ways to get there, so it's only an obstacle if you let it be. The SMH article is here and Sharna Clemmett's excellent story of achievement is here. Both are well worth taking the time to read.

This came up on my FB from a year ago, and I don't know where I got it from so if it was you, let me know.

Remember as the article says, the HSC only defines your the starting point, it doesn't define your destination.

Good luck, and if you can, relax and enjoy!

Linking with #LovingLifeLinky

Monday, 15 October 2018

World Mental Health and Coming Out Day

While I was away, it was World Mental Health Day and Coming Out Day (a day apart, if I'm to believe the posts on FB - October 10 & 11). By coincidence I came across this song, so thought I'd share. I don’t know how you get it to the young people that are struggling to come out but figuring sharing here is a start... If anyone saw Hannah Gadsby's Nanette, you’ll know the lifelong damage of shame* and given the hate that our PM is pouring out at the moment under the guise of religious freedom, we need to be more mindful of the damaging minority stress that we are causing in the media at the moment.

*remember folks, shame is a negative emotion given to you by others, and we should never carry baggage we haven’t packed ourselves. (idea stolen from the brilliant Augusten Burroughs in This is How)

And there's a brilliant campaign on Men's Mental Health at the moment, but I think it applies to everyone looking for support. One thing I've learnt in the last few years is that support comes from unexpected places. When I was having a tough time a few years ago, the people who rallied around were not people that I considered close friends at the time, however they are now. The people that rallied around became my pillars of non judgemental support, and I realised I could turn to them and say whatever I needed to express. I truly believe there is ALWAYS someone ready to lend an ear. Just remember to do the same for others when you can. Together we can make life easier for everyone.

 From Kaged Lions:

Have a great week, and if you aren't, let someone know.

Saturday, 13 October 2018

The flower doesn't concern itself with the flower next to it, it just blooms.

Remember, a single flower is always beautiful. A field of flowers is beautiful in a completely different way.

Never mistake a momentary situation or feeling for forever. No matter what it is, or how bad, it shall pass.

Don't let the limitations of other people's vision defeat you. Whatever you do, don't make these limitations your own.

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Friday, 12 October 2018

What I have learned lately (from Ladybird)

Image from Wikipedia
See what I did there? So sneaky...
I watched Lady Bird on the plane over to Singapore. Great little film with a few pearls of wisdom.

1. "Money is not life's report card"
I have a friend who has hit a reversal of fortune, however, compared to MANY people I know, still doing way better than most. Instead of growing up in his world view, he seems still focused on (in my opinion) all the wrong things. Money makes life easier, and fun, and takes stress out of disaster but your focus still needs to be on relationships and those things that really matter. I am amazed at people I know who have so much yet don't seem happy or fulfilled. A little more internal investment would help them much more than what's in their bank account.
With a child in their HSC year, it's interesting what occupations are coming up in conversations. Prestige in careers seems to be in a lot of parent's minds. It's sad. The child's desires are often dismissed. Surely what makes you happy and provides fulfillment is a good starting point. You can always chase the money after that...

2. 'Don't you think they're the same thing - love and attention?'
A very interesting point. Marriages fall apart when a spouse is neglected. Not paying attention to what matters to your partner will lead to loneliness. Not paying attention to children invalidates them. Perhaps attention is the best way to show our love?

3. When asked why she is crying, the response is 'Some people aren't built happy'. This broke my heart. Anyone who has tried to help someone with depression will know the pain of the illogical reasoning. You wish they could see themselves through your eyes. however, I do genuinely believe that they can be helped to be happy. It will take a long time and a lot of work, but it's a good reminder to those helpers not to dismiss the feelings. They aren't being selfish or self indulgent, they just aren't built happy.

Lastly, my favourite, when asked if she was any good at something, Lady Bird replies "Not that we are aware of yet". When trying something new, don't be daunted or presume you won't be good at it. You are simply unaware of your capabilities. Just because you haven't had success at your chosen enterprise, don't let that defeat you...YET.

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Friday, 28 September 2018

Share my snaps! - Singapore

Shutting the blog again for the holidays but squeezing in a quick Share my Snaps! over at #Lifethisweek.

One way or another, we are all voyagers on this planet, regardless if we travel distances or just through time.

If we're really lucky, we get to do both.

Will be, as always, on Instagram if you miss me.

Drive safely over the break, happy trails. and may you learn how to steer the ship, even if you don't know precisely where you are going.

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Same, Same yet Different

My eldest graduated high school this week. She's almost 18.
She still lives at home and treading water, waiting for exam results.
Same, same but different.
Something is changing but we don't know what yet. There's no certainty. There's a plan, but we may have to scramble to a new one depending on the outcome of the HSC.
The mum things are still the same, but the freedom of an adult in the house is different.
The worry is the same, but it needs to be different.
The wall is still the same plain wall, yet suddenly changed completely reflecting the sunlight
Same, Same yet Different
As someone commented on the end of an era post, a chapter has closed. I need to focus on the excitement of a whole new book awaiting to be opened! For now life is like an aeroplane in a holding pattern waiting it's turn to land. It will happen, we just have to be patient.

"The tide comes in. The tide goes out. We're always on our way somewhere, even when standing still". Bill Willingham

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Tuesday, 25 September 2018

Loving the theatre, Loving cheap tix

The night before I went to Singapore, Bad Mama snuck out to the theatre. I'd booked the play when I thought I wasn't going to make the Grand Prix, as a consolation prize. Then when the stars aligned for my weekend away, I wasn't prepared to ditch my tickets. And I was so glad I went.

Accidental Death of An Anarchist is on at the Opera House until the 27th October. It's hilariously funny. I can't remember laughing at a play like that in a long time (and yes, I went to Morman this year). If you can get tickets, you definitely should go.

Smart Tix sent me an email, and if you sign up you can get $54 tickets for performances next week - 1st - 4th October here. ($41 if under 30 years old. This is not sponsored, I just want everyone to see it).

So this week I am loving the offerings in the arts at the moment, and loving laughing, and loving the smile that creeps back on my face when I think about it. And as you look at our current political shenanigans, may I impart the wisdom of Dario Fo 'We are in the shit up to our necks, which is why we're walking with our heads held high.' 

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Monday, 24 September 2018

13 years of school

It's the last week of school for my eldest. Together we've had a journey of thirteen years of school. This week is parties, farewells and graduation. Then in a few weeks the exam and formal.
And then no more. Ever.

I'm very excited at all the change ahead. Be it work or university, the new friends, the new lifestyle. (Hopefully a bit more help around the house??)

Suddenly there's a new adult in the house. I'm not too stressed about the exams, even though she may not get the marks she's after. I figure she'll get into something and can always move on from there if she needs to.

My middle child chided me with an irritated "You know I still have to go to school next term?" when I spoke merrily of school year being over - it does feel like it is for me! But then it hit me. I may have voyaged thirteen years of school with one kid, but I have another eight more years in playgrounds and assemblies to go. The reminding of assignments, the coaxing to study, the 'do you have your...' before they walk out the door. It makes me tired at the tediousness of it all.

My enthusiastic celebration is slightly tainted with the thought that I have to do it all again and again long into the future. I'll have spent 21 years of my life as a school parent.

Yet I should consider myself very lucky that I do get to do just that and treasure those fleeting moments for in a blink of an eye, I'll be at my very last graduation and then my children will be gone, replaced by adults with their own lives and families.

I hope when my youngest is in his final year, that I will be equally happy and excited at closing that door. I hope I won't be sad and feel loss, as some people do. I hope I'll be able to revel at the prospect of his future finally on the horizon.

So for those in their HSC year, my advice is to just enjoy it. This is the fun time, not to be spoiled with worries of marks (because realistically, you will sit the exams and you get what you get - worrying won't help at all. Study in the next few weeks, of course, but don't mar the next few days with stress). There are great new adventures to come, regardless as to whether you get the mark you wanted or needed. These last days of school are probably the most carefree you will ever be.

Make the most of them.

Your life is just beginning!

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Saturday, 22 September 2018

Vibrant nature

In the middle of grey winter, the red in the vegetable garden screams for joyous attention.
Sometimes a splash of colour is all you need to smile.
What made you smile today?

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Pop Up Globe

The replica of Shakespeare's Globe theatre has popped up in Sydney and it's fabulous. A replica model with the same sensational acoustics so no one is miked. We went to Macbeth and I loved it so much that we're booking Comedy of Errors in the extended season. It's a fun experience and the venue is delightful in the true sense of the word. If it comes to your town as it travels the world, make sure you see a show. 

If in Sydney, you have until the end of November and then as Shakespeare so aptly said 'Parting is such sweet sorrow!'

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Christmas is coming....

It's 100 days until Christmas. Less by the time you read this.
Where did 2018 go?
So, when I saw there was a free gift with purchase, I decided to start my xmas shopping.
I have a friend having rather a rough time at the moment through no fault of her own, we are just at the age where life can become exceedingly difficult. So while I don't normally get her a big gift, I headed to L'Occitane and got her their advent calendar. So every day in December, she'll have a little treat and hopefully a little pick-me-up to make her smile.
As for the free gift? It will be my MIL's present, as it's perfect for a traveller like her. I consider part of what I paid for the advent calendar the cost of the 'gift with purchase' so I don't consider it a free gift at all (in case that makes me look bad)*.

Do you like Advent calendars? Have you started thinking about Christmas?

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*and we did just buy her a $100 pillow for no reason at all. I'm worried I look like a terrible person!!!

Wednesday, 19 September 2018

Let the good times roll

You have from now until the 30th September to hit the rollerskating rink on the roof at Broadway Shopping Centre. As part of the Sydney Fringe festival, there's a rink set up with outdoor lounge offering jenga and connect four with sparkling city views and a DJ pumping beats.

The Wednesday club chose this activity, and I'll admit I was slightly terrified. When I turned up to get my skates, the guy asked if I'd done it before. Not for 40 years, was my answer. Literally.
Tentatively I rolled out. It's harder than ice skating, as you don't have the flexibility of the blade, all four wheels need contact with the floor. I did end up getting more confident but I couldn't do any of the 'tricks' I used to be able to do. And I realised my career as a derby girl was never going to happen. Delusions were shattered.

However, it is fun, and I hope to get back with my little one before it shuts. (Note I think you need above a shoe size 9 for kids). I didn't fall, and I did get faster and more co-ordinated in my movements.

So while you can't teach this old dog new tricks, she can at least muster the courage to try.

Now I'm quite tempted to get those roller skates that Santa gave me 6 years ago* out of the cupboard and actually give them a try....

Torshlusspanik List:

1. Shooting (check)
2. Fencing (check)
3. Play croquet at Croquet Club
4. Laser skeet
5. Off road buggy driving
6. Play Assassins Creed
7. Jetpacking (check)
8. The Color Run (check)
9. Invent something
10. Cooking Masterclass (check)
11. Master a Masterclass (check)
12. Perform a rap song (check)
13. Trampoline adventure (check)
14. BMX Riding (check)
15. Do a cart wheel (check)
16. Ride an Electric Bike (check)
17. Astonish Myself
18. Write a book.
19. Participate in a distance event (check)
20. Climb Sydney Tower (check)
21. Dance in a dance class (check)
22. Trust a stranger
23. Get a truck for the Landmine Museum and Relief Centre in Siem Reap
24. Paint a picture
25. Go Rollerskating (check)

 *Six years? I had guessed 4. Where on earth did that time go? And shame on me - not even tried them on in over 2100 days!!!!                                                                                                                       Do you rollerskate? When was the last time you tried something that scares you?                                                                                                                                                                                                 Linking with #ANewWhirl

Tuesday, 18 September 2018

Loving Singapore, Loving Life

The HSC gods arranged the music exam in the first few days of the exam period which then allowed  me book a last minute trip to Singapore for the fabulous F1 night race. I was there for 3 nights only, but managed to see 9 exhibitions, 2 temples, 4 bands, shopping, drinks and even a swim and reading my book by the pool. I was lucky enough to have people there to kick around with and was able to get a room for a relatively good price, walking distance from the track (so I could safely and comfortably walk home at 1 am without feeling fearful as a solo woman).

I was saying to my husband last night, that the best part of the weekend was being able to leave the room without having to organise anything for anyone else. No children to feed, no 'stuff' to carry, no one to think about except myself. Everyday there, I'd do my own thing and then meet my friends for lunch. It was a luxury that I'd forgotten, and I'll be honest, I miss. This year, little of my time has been my own. While I can't really complain, it does a little more wear and tear emotionally than I'd realised.

Part of me wants to bring the family next year but part of me wants my respite. That little window back into the person I was, when I could explore as I wished, stay out as late as I liked (without the responsibilities of the morning's obligations pressing into the enjoyment of the night before).

Fittingly, as the closing performer Martin Garrix said, I was high on life. Had Kimi made the podium, it would have been the perfect weekend for me.

Quick thank you to Singapore for as always, putting on the best race weekend of the season. Your Night Race is the jewel of the F1 calendar and your city shines bright for everyone who travels to participate in the festivities.

Do you escape by yourself ever? Would you want to? Do you love Singapore?

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