“Keep your face to the sun and you will never see the shadows.” ― Helen Keller

A very quick one for #WordlessWednesday. Even through the dirty plane window, the glory of the nature of the sun abounded.

I was truly mesmerised watching the changing colours fill the sky. Look for the pink reflection on the cloud.

Sometimes the littlest thing makes you feel so lucky.

Linking with#ScenicSundays

Girlfriend's and Divorce

When I was pregnant, I discovered the books by Vicki Iovine, and loved her advice so much, I followed it through birth*, babies, toddlers and getting your groove back with her wonderful series, The Girlfriend's Guide. Last night, I decided to see if she'd written one about teenagers, only to discover she'd gotten divorced after 27 years of marriage. In her books, they had seemed so happy that I was strangely devastated to learn this, as if she was a personal friend (she's a very infectious personality in print, so you do feel like you're sharing these journeys with her).

However, in her true style, while she hasn't written The Girlfriend's Guide to Divorce (she should), she has landed on her feet with a TV series of the same name, that is apparently just renewed for a third season.  More of a comedy/drama than advice doco, it was nice to learn she's onward and upward in her life's journey.

She did write this post: The 10 biggest misconceptions about divorce which I will send to any friends that need to hear it, with point 2 highlighted. There is no better advice than that for women in this situation, as many I know can attest to.

As for me, I'm hoping her teen book is still in the works, and will read her posts at leisure over the coming weeks, happy to have discovered her blog.

First of the Month Fiction will be delayed until midmonth, when I return to the blog after an extended sabbatical.

Have you ever been upset by news of a stranger?

Linking with #BookNook 

*Her book on Birth was the only one that asked if you'd thought about how you'd get to the hospital - not by which transport but would you sit in the front or stretch out in the back? Would you need a bucket to be sick in? Would you want a pillow? So many of her tips and ideas stuck in my head...If anyone is pregnant, I thoroughly recommend her first three books on Pregnancy, Birth and Baby's first year.

First of the Month Fiction - April

That time again, and this time, I'm shutting the blog for the whole month of April, so have fabulous holidays, stay safe in the cyclone and enjoy all the Easter festivities.
Be nice, be kind and make this broken world a better place.

I wrote a little story, for a competition called In Print. It's a little funny and bleak at the same time.

The link will stay open for the whole month, and I'll look at the stories when I get back, so please don't think I'm ignoring your efforts.

Add a story in the comments, either in 100 words exactly or one less than 30 words. Then link your blog.

My story (no offense to anyone from small towns, I'm sure a lot has changed, just as the exodus to London is no longer the rite of passage for Aussie teens) I was just toying with an idea, and you know me, somebody has to be the bad guy:

She had left town and said her goodbyes. She was leaving nothing to chance. She'd got the train to the city and stayed overnight in a cheap hostel, to be ready for the airport the next day. Her time had come. No more hiding herself behind small town values. No more listening to the ignorant views and homophobic rants but saying nothing. She was on her way to freedom, where nobody knew her. She handed the attendant her boarding pass and smiled. The woman gave her a wink and grinned as she returned the paper. She wondered if everyone could already tell? In London, she could be proud of who she was. Out and proud and happy.

Have a wonderful April. I'll be off all SM except possibly Insta, hopefully I'll have some pretty pictures for you all, so swing by if you miss me (hahaha!)

An InLinkz Link-up

Linking with #MummyMondays, #OpenSlather and off topic for #Lifethisweek

Dancing is like dreaming with your feet! ~Constanze

You'll remember I got a Groupon to a dance studio - and so off I trotted to the contempory and hiphop classes. I discovered I was a good 25 years older than everyone (so that's great for your self esteem) and that everyone else could actually dance (because I went to classes that suited me time wise, not beginner classes).

The alarm bell went during the first warm up when everyone started doing the splits. As you do.

However, not one to worry about such things as competency, I just did my best. It was a lot of fun and mildly hilarious. 

The teachers were lovely and never once made me feel I should leave in shame. 

I did go to a beginner class once, and I have to say, while I was better at it, I sort of preferred the more advanced classes as the actual dances were more fun.

The only bit I did get nervous about, was at the end of the class, everyone would set up there cameras on little tripods to film themselves, which means there's a good chance I'm in the background doing my weird, edited to my ability moves....I'm waiting for the meme to appear any day now....

I really liked it, and the warm ups were enough exercise on their own, especially in the 90 minute classes. However, in a month, I only managed to get to 5 classes, so I think I'll move onto the next experiment...perhaps Bollywood dancing?

What did I learn? When you're old, you just don't care. I'd look at what I was meant to be doing in stretches etc and think 'oh, I'll just do this instead'. If I mucked up a move, I'd just laugh and go to the next bit I knew. I didn't feel too embarrassed or self conscious (just old, which is a bit depressing but a fact of life, so what are you going to do?) Isn't it a shame that when you're young, you're such a mess of self confidence. Imagine how happy your teen years would be if you had that blessing of old age?

My memory struggles with remembering the steps...but dancing is probably a good recall training exercise.

And so, moving on, I'm back on the 'trying new things groove', so stay tuned for more Torschlusspanik adventures. 

Torshlusspanik List:

1. Shooting (check)
2. Fencing (check)
3. Play croquet at Croquet Club
4. Laser skeet
5. Off road buggy driving
6. Play Assassins Creed
7. Jetpacking (check)
8. The Color Run (check)
9. Invent something
10. Cooking Masterclass (check)

11. Master a Masterclass (check)

12. Perform a rap song (check)

13. Trampoline adventure (check)

14. BMX Riding (check)

15. Do a cart wheel (check)

16. Ride an Electric Bike (check)

17. Astonish Myself

18. Write a book.

19. Participate in a distance event (check)

20. Climb Sydney Tower (check)

21. Dance in a dance class (check)

Linking with #KCACOLS (for those than need the Torschlusspanik list explained, see here.)

Last 3 months

The last three months have flown so fast. I look at the diary, a mess of scribbles, trying to work out what I'm going to discuss with you. We've had picnics at the beach, a weekend away with friends, been to concerts and shows galore.




I've been on outings with the kids to zoos, mini golfing and exhibitions. (Linking this old shot with #SaturdayCritters)

I've explored areas of Sydney I've never been to before (and Port Kembla & outskirts of Sydney)

I've had two indulgence trips to Melbourne for the day and Adelaide overnight, for an exhibition and concert respectively.

We've had two days out on boats, and some ferry trips to beaches.




The kids have been busy with all the school related stuff, plus jobs and learning to drive...ahhh, It never ends.









Yet if you ask me what I've been up to, I'd reply 'Nothing'. It's only looking at the photos for this post that I realise how much fun I've had. I've had a good three months but nondescript in the grand scheme of things, though minute by minute is generally enjoyable and that, my dear friends, has to be enough.








I'll leave you with this quote, that has me thinking, maybe I need to work out how to squash even more fun in!

“Those who make the worst use of their time are the first to complain of its brevity.” 
― Jean de La Bruyère, Les Caractères

How would you sum up the last three months?

Have you been #LovingLife?
Linking with #StayClassyMama

Coastrek - walk a mile in my shoes

Opera House in the rain

Under the bridge, out of the rain

The other day we walked 30km in rainy, windy conditions to raise money for the Fred Hollows Foundation. The aim of Coastrek was to raise over $2.8 million, and they were well on the way to do it at last count.

Neilson park

We were a lot slower than other walks I've done, but even the 35kms I did was in clear conditions, so I'm guessing that was part of the problem.

I won't say I was loving life, but it was better than I expected, given my anticipation of the conditions.

Coastrek is heading to Melbourne in May and Sunshine Coast in July. It's not too late to get a team together, but if you're doing the 60kms, you need 12 weeks to train. If you want to see some spectacular scenery and help a good cause with friends, this is the way to do it.

If you want to donate to the Fred Hollows Foundation, click here.

Linking with #Allseasons because it's just more rainy day photos....

Stormy Bondi

The Coopers Fiasco

Before I start, full disclosure, I'm not gay nor a single parent. However I do know many of both groups.

I feel very sorry for Coopers. They've been thrown into a fiasco, not of their own making.

I feel sorry for the Bible Society, who were trying to make a well intentioned video, saying we can discuss the issue without being aggressive, and they were saying we needed to discuss marriage equality. However, they may have been better using the example of being a Liberal or Labor voter or something else that's a matter of choice not rights, instead of asking an oppressed group of people to 'keep it light'. If you are not afforded the same rights as others, it's very hard not to be emotionally engaged in the fight for basic equality.

The Bible says lots of things we choose to ignore. My personal favourite is that anyone who works on a Sunday should be put to death. The Bible is quite clear about that, however we realise it's not relevant or appropriate. I think we can use the same dismissive logic with the bible's definition of marriage. Even a priest works on Sunday, and no one seems to mind anymore. All the people not getting married in a church should be exempt from the bible's definition of marriage anyway. Just as those not getting married in a Mosque shouldn't be bound by the Koran's definition of marriage.

The 'think of the children' argument is offensive beyond words to me. I know plenty of women whose partner went MIA and are raising great kids. I know a few men whose wives died and have wonderful girls becoming outstanding women. I know couples who work and travel all the time and the nanny basically raises the kids. Their happy children. Then there are the abusers you read about, often in a man/woman couple, being tried for terrible things they did to their children. So I think if you want to 'think of the children' perhaps you need to think about what it must be like to say to a child "Your parents, these loving people that raise you, are not considered equal to the rest of the country,". How damaging is that?

I think this clip best sums up our responsibility to marriage equality (though the clip itself is discussing something else) - The LBGTQI community needs to make room for Christians to be able to worship (and they do), and Christians need to see that the LBGTQI community are people with a need for equal rights. This clip is a sportscaster talking about the transgender wrestler who was not allowed to compete in the boys league, where he actually preferred to compete, but the association made him compete with the girls. When he won, a furor in the media broke out, as he had an unfair advantage. The whole clip is worth watching but for the time poor, the gist is this: " I'm not always comfortable when a man tells me he's gay. I don't understand his world. But I do understand he's a part of mine."

We don't have to understand it. We don't even have to approve. We don't have to personally go to the weddings. We do need to understand these are people, and afford them the same rights we enjoy. If the gay woman up the street marries her partner, my marriage is still intact. My marriage is unaltered. Her union is confirmed before all others, which must make her happy, as it did me when I got married many moons ago. How does it impact me? No way I can see, unless I have to buy her a present or take a day off to attend the party. Both of which I can choose not to do, if I don't want to support union.

Coopers, if you wish to give money to a charity that provides bibles to the military, I see no harm in that. I don't think you should have to apologise for that. I give to many charities too. I have no issue making space for Christians, Hindus, Jews, Muslims and the other religions to worship, as long as they make space for those that don't share the same beliefs. 

Perhaps the real lesson is that we need to make sure we are not oppressing another group in our form of worship?

Linking with  #Stayclassymama #KCACOLS & #OpenSlather

PS please watch the clip. I can't tell you how much I now LOVE this guy. Simple decency seems so logical.

Further note: I will delete any abusive comments aimed at me, other comments, Coopers, the Bible Society, the LBGTQI community and certain politicians who have been outspoken on the issue. You are welcome to disagree but we are better than name callers.

Postscript: I want to share this from the Anglican Church in Gosford - not only did Father Rod raise over $10k for the Leukemia Foundation yesterday, but he also spoke out on the proposed changes to 18C. Today he shared this on Facebook. It is well worth a read. Thank you Father Rod. You are an exemplary Christian. In the TRUE sense of the word.