It's a long weekend - I've been reading in the sunshine which is lovely...just about to watch the F1 as I'm not an NRL person. But will rush these through....
I have not really got into the other Matt Haig book I read - but I did enjoy this. A friend put it up so I thought I'd give it a go. I listened on Borrowbox. It is the second book set in Ibiza that has environmental themes, and having just been there, I could really flesh it all out. I thought it captured the environment and the little details well - my favourite bit was the taxi drivers being tour guides, as I did find that to be the case. They were lovely. It's a sort of mystical realism mystery. With a bit of finding your way, finding your way back after loss and all the usual Haig themes.
I was so delighted to get this from the library that I tweeted this and started immediately.
I listened to this on Borrowbox as well, read by the author. I'm a huge fan, and as I said, I excitedly started it, only to be devastated when he announced it was his last book. As always, he's smart, funny and engaging. Even on this topic. I think as a book I liked Nothing to be Frightened Of more...but I still like this one. I just really don't want it to be his last...You really can't go wrong with any of his work. Not any I've read, at least. This as a tale within a tale, so there's something for those who are new to Barnes. I loved the discussion on memory, and of course on Proust.
28 minutes from the first tweet to the next....I listened to the book non stop, in part hoping he would say 'it's not really my last book' but he didn't.
I am getting rid of books to feed the street library and ebay, to rehome them. I got this book because I like John Marsden (Tomorrow When the War Began and many other titles) and I liked the format - bullet points with a 1 page explanation on each point. So while I wasn't a single parent, I figured raising boys was raising boys.
Anyway, I reread it out of curiosity before putting it out. I liked it still - only 2 points have maybe dated a little. I did do most of it, whether from the book or innately I don't know.
This H+ was in a street library on my dog walk so I grabbed it, read it and then put it out in mine. It's a little book on happiness and mental health, sort of, dressed as way of living. The first half, I thought 'this is just existentialism dressed up without the depressing part'. Your actions are what matter, and doing good actions are what add up. Helping others and so on, will make you feel better. However, towards the end, about fines and sending money to the headquarters, I couldn't tell if he was joking or a bit kooky. A lot of it is common sense I think, but it was an interesting read until the end.
This was in the library, a little board book with numbers, colours and even fuzzy tactile and shiny dots. Just had to include it as I love her work. Even on this level....
This is part of my AI and chatbot obsession, which prompted these posts on companion bots and dating. This book makes the interesting point that tech companies are owning or storing your data and using your therapy chats or companion chats to train other AI. And more. She tries not to be judgemental, having used it for a sounding board in her grief, so she understands it. I also liked that a lot of the people found real life love in the reddit groups for people with companion bots - that was an unexpected consequence to me but I like the symmetry of it.
I said awhile back that I was going to read more poetry, and I am failing at that. I did read the little poem that came in the Lush bath bombs. That's lovely.
And I did finally start The Odyssey. For everyone that complained about the movie, I can say the movie is the only thing that makes me understand it and keep going. It's not that it's hard, it's just not grabbing me. I've only read book one so will keep going a bit more, but I doubt I will make it to the end. One blogger said it was her favourite poem and a cousin is MAD for it, so I am bearing that in mind and will persist.
I did get this from the library - we have a half booked trip but due to all the illness and other problems at the moment, I'm not sure we'll go. Have another month to make the call. However, will read a bit just incase we go....
This month has sailed past. Lots going on but I'll try to focus on the positive. (Or interesting).
READ Not had much time for reading but did finish a book I started a long time ago. Just a puzzle book that I then put in my street library for someone in the school holidays.
Been reading too much about AI and the alleged rapes at Cornell. I keep trying not to read more but I can't help it. Both are so depressing. The bombing of the school in Iran, being in part because no one told AI to take into account updated information shows exactly what humans bring to the table. (Assuming what I read is true - it was just a link on Instagram). As for the Cornell matter, the men threatening women and doxxing them online is an own goal - the prosecuting lawyer will just use that as an example of the culture at the school, and why she felt she couldn't press criminal charges at the time. In my current frame of mind, I'm trying to focus on cheery, but my curiosity gets the better of me, and it's so awful.
I also read that there is a woman in Mexico who has developed a vaccine that has successfully eradicated cancer in 6 cases in the cell level. I can't find the link to that sorry...but it's getting close.
Since writing that paragraph, I also read a man in Germany successfully erased cancer in the bowel (cells, I think) without operation or chemo....
WATCHED Went to a great play for Sydney Fringe - My Grandpa Doesn't Follow Me on Instagram - if it tours near you, check it out. I really enjoyed The Shark is Broken - heading your way Melbourne in a few weeks. It's very funny. We saw Hope at the cinema. Hilarious though a little long for a night session (for me).
On TV I really enjoyed The Final Problem - a Spanish Sherlock Holmes/Agatha Christie-esque mini series. Quite fun and very glamorous to watch. Old style glamour that is...
Saw Aziz Ansari but with the surprise opening comedian, Aaron Chen! That made my night, even though we'd seen all of his set at his show a week or so ago. He's so funny. It was a very good night! (My husband's photo as my phone camera is terrible).
HEARD Loving this song. (NSFW) Filmed at Parookaville but the night after we were there. He got moved from our night which was devastating four us but he's hopefully heading to Australia soon....Lucky New Zealand, you get him New Year's Eve so don't miss it. He's the best fun!
and been listening to a lot of Calvin Harris as I got the tickets for my crew straight off. I was complaining it took me 45 minutes but I've since discovered so many people missed out, even though he added 4 more nights in Sydney.
Lastly, for those that follow this cheery gem on Instagram, Casey Lowrey, he's coming to Australia as support for the Reytons. Dates here.
MADE a mistake changing vets a few years ago. They have been one problem after another but the final straw was when my dog got her bloods tested in August, I told them on the phone when I booked and in person when I dropped her off, that she also needed her Leptospirosis shot. I heard nothing more about it and there was an extra charge so I foolishly assumed it was done. Yesterday I asked for the updated vax certificate as they hadn't sent it. I discover they hadn't done it and the charge was for some random telehealth charge - probably for the phone call that they didn't bother to listen to me requesting she also get the shot done. So I am now trying to find a new vet to do the operation, and I have to book her into have her shots now 2 months overdue.
WOREI had a few solo gigs and decided to wear dresses I'm 'too fat for' - tight dress that my menopausal belly no longer suits. I love the dresses though. Anyway, I wore them and felt good in them so I'm now back into wearing them. I'm working on it but I'm also old enough to be me. It's what I look like so I should enjoy what I wear.
Been wearing face masks in the bath while I read....I do think they make a difference but really only for straight after and maybe the next day. Yet they feel like I'm doing something positive so I persist...I buy on sale so no loyalty to any brand...
MY TOP THREE MOMENTS FROM THE MONTH GONE BY Obviously mum's operation going well is one (though back in hospital not so good), daughter finishing school and graduation celebration with all my kids (I love the finally all together) plus Father's day so lots of family together time which is my favourite time of all.
Had a great dinner in Surrey Hills with friends at Tera.
Went to the new exhibition at White Rabbit with my husband and a lovely outing at Sydney Contemporary, so lot's of art this month, always makes me smile!
These are glass - cloth and pot too.
The food pics are all from Tera, share dishes. Not cheap but sensational.
That's been my month. Busy but not busy. Happy and stressful. Chaotic in all senses.
From the 26th September until the 11th October, the Opera House is hosting a kids festival with plenty of theatre shows and free activities aimed at children. See what's on here!
One that will appeal to all ages is the Iwagumi Air Scape by Eness. As you move through the rock formation on the Forecourt, a soundscape of native birds, frogs and streams is triggered. After dark it lights up, melting into different colours.
A delightful art addition to an evening out. Lights off at 10 pm.
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These popped up in my memories and made me smile. They're at the fabulous gallery in Singapore, Art Now. Don't miss it if heading there, it's wonderful.
Their SM seems to have stopped at the end of last year so I'm hoping that doesn't mean it's closed. It was a must visit for me every trip in recent years.
While wandering the streets of Shibuya finding all the Toilets in Perfect Days, I came across rare street art in Tokyo. It was commissioned, as a guess as it was stencils of all the famous things in Shibuya. There were many in different colours decorating the white wall, but these were my favourites.
There is a self proclaimed activist on Twitter and I happened to stumble across her post which read 'Feeling heart broken today about being judged, punished and banished by my adult children and grandchildren for the past 5 years [because of my activisim]...I'm standing up for HUMANITY....None of them [Her children] would exist in the form they do without me. The sacrifices mothers make to bring life into the world are sh@t on from a great height' I am keeping it vague and anonymous to protect her but I can't stop thinking about it.
I might be naive, but I can't believe someone would estrange themselves from you just for your political beliefs - they'd tell you to shut up about it when they were around. Or fight with you until you stopped bringing it up in front of them. The only reason they would cut you out of their life is if they or their child is the thing you are protesting against - gay, trans, migrant (I guess it would be one of her kids married a migrant and the grandchild's mother is a migrant). Whatever. If you are that oblivious to your insults and harm you might cause, or that insensitive, then you don't deserve to be around them. Full stop. Like Christians that do the unChristian thing of throwing out their gay child, they not only sin themselves in doing so, but punish them selves by showing their true colours. What kind of parent intentionally hurts their child? I can not fathom that 'being right' would mean more than being able to love and grow with your family.
The only other reason is if there is a litany of wrongs in their upbringing and relationship and either this was the final straw or she can't fathom any wrong doing on her part, and is assuming it's the activism. Given the wording of the post, I suspect this may be the case.
I can not stop thinking about the lack of self awareness. She centres herself - She's heart broken about 'being judged, punished and banished'. She is not heart broken about missing 5 years of her kids lives and not having a relationship with her grandchildren, not getting to know them in their formative years. She feels her kids owe her something for being born and the sacrifices she made for them. Not thinking the kids are her prize or most precious things in her life that made her life better because they were born to her.
If it was me, I would be moving mountains to mend the relationship - and I know that is not always possible, though no fault of the estranged parent. We only get one version to the story, our own, but the wording in hers is telling.
My advice to her was to get off twitter and do whatever she could to mend the relationships. I was ignored. But I still keep thinking about her. There's a sad, tragic character in a novel there (who am I kidding, in a short story if I'm writing it). My kiddo moved out of home at 21, luckily lives nearby. I try to give her space as I resented my parents and in laws making visiting an obligation, and I'd never want my kids to feel that way about time spent with me. So we see each other every few weeks and I try not to text too much in the mean time. And that is hard for me. I miss her so much. But 5 years because they felt I'd done something? I'd be devastated and do anything to try and reverse that or build that bridge.
The worst thing in that tweet, was it wasn't really about the kids at all and the loss of relationship. It was to show how great an activist she was to forsake all else for the cause. But to me, it just seemed very sad and damaged. And honestly, nasty.
“If you tend to a flower, it will bloom, no matter how many weeds surround it.” – Matshona Dhliwayo
So tend your garden at all times.
Please note, I am not saying in all cases it is the parents fault, nor is it the parents job to pander to the adult children at all times. I'm just saying in this case, the wording and presentation seems to be telling a different story, and I am relating only to that.
This was in the library, a little board book with numbers, colours and even fuzzy tactile and shiny dots. Just had to include it as I love her work. Even on this level....
