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Thursday, 22 October 2015

Stuck on the sidelines.

It seems very unfair, that when you get to an age that your friends are kind and you have the confidence to stand up for yourself and defend how you want to be treated, that you have to watch the little people you love above all else, be hurt by the jerks of youth.

I don't blame the other kids, they can't be friends with everyone, unfortunately kids can be such cruel beings, sometimes without even trying. It's just one of those things. Made more obvious by the carelessness of youth. It's not malicious, just thoughtless. Sometimes you must watch as the other kids all paddle off in the canoe, and just wave from the shore then find someone else.

It is, however, heartbreaking for the mother when you can't actually do anything to change it. You can make a few suggestions but it's the fact I can do nothing to take their pain away that hurts me the most. I want so much to fix it, but I can't.

I guess ultimately, I know that they'll end up fine. It's just watching the bumpy ride to get to that happy, confident adult that I hate.

Sometimes it's so very hard to be a spectator.


Lining with #MummyMondays

11 comments:

  1. I feel your pain and I'm sure I'll feel it more as my boys get older. It sucks huh.

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  2. I know exactly what you mean. And when it's adults hurting your child by their thoughtlessness it's even worse because I can't step in and give them a shake say "Wake up - don't you see what you are doing" I have to believe that it's making her a stronger person and hopefully a better person because she will learn how not to treat people.
    It hurts that we can't take their pain away and all we can offer is some words and a hug and a kiss. I never realised just how much K enjoyed my hugs until she moved away and they weren't there for her anymore - I think she is sorry for the times when she was wearing her cranky pants and having a hug was too much trouble for her !!!!

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  3. I agree-it is hard to watch.

    Thank you for your condolences about my cat.

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  4. I agree-it is hard to watch.

    Thank you for your condolences about my cat.

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  5. Oh it's hard isn't it! Hang in there. Xx

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  6. It's hard to watch and it's even harder to not be able to do anything about it. I guess, it's a big learning curve for everyone involved.

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  7. It's so hard not to be able to fix everything for them. Letting go is the hardest part!

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  8. Hang in there mumma!! If only we could make them understand what we know now!!

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  9. YES! We are going through a similar thing in our house with one of our children being constantly bullied by another at school, sometimes I just wish I could take this child aside and really give him what for! Sending strength and hope xx

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  10. Do you know what? This is one of my greatest fears for when my son grows up. My heart bounces around outside my chest for him enough as it is, I don't know how I'm going to bear it when I know he's having a hard time with other kids, especially considering he's so sensitive. I've already seen what he's like when other kids don't want to play with him (he's just shy of 4 years old) and it's heart breaking!!!!

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  11. Oh, it's heartbreaking to read this. My boys start school next year and I'm already worried. Nothing has happened and I'm already panicking about how they'll settle in and who they'll get along with. Hope it all works out x

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