Thursday, 27 November 2025

“The scraggly spiders of her words crept around my brain” ― Ryszard Kapuściński

My father often recited poetry at random moments in conversation. It's part of that old English school boy education they had back in the 1950s. A lot of Kipling. But also this one - a line out of a poem from 1829, 'Come into my parlour said the Spider to the Fly' by Mary Howitt. To this day it's the first thing that pops into my head when I see a spider. Then the Australian in me says "Is it a Funnel web?" (because they are really the only spiders Australians are scared of). I know that title quote is meant negatively but Dad's poetry is rattling around in my head, and when it pops out at unexpected times, is now quite a sweet tie to him, and to my childhood. They're not deep and meaningful moments, just a part of him that is imprinted in my subconscious, a mundane daily interaction. Life is not just the big moments, but all moments. And those casual exchanges shared are easier to celebrate in a lot of ways, and later, memorilise. 



I do know that in this country, if a spider makes it's web inbetween trees, it's not venemous. (Tho people that know about such things, correct me if I'm wrong). It's the ground ones that are dangerous or deadly.

I personally think most spiders are our friends, and they stop us getting malaria....(I know that's an extreme jump but it is sort of true, maybe stop us getting Ross River Fever or just itchy, eating the mosquitos). Australians generally aren't that scared of spiders, or even snakes but the most universally terrifying creature is the magpie in Spring. Every single one of us has a trauma story when we were attacked by a magpie and we couldn't make it stop. (I'm not being funny. It's awful!)

Anyway, this one was so cute, I had to try to get photos. My phone couldn't zoom in enough but still cute!



And the yellow thing in the pics is an inchworm but I didn't realise until after I'd taken all the pictures.







And while looking up a quote for the title, I stumbled across this and it is your thought for the day to ponder "“In a World Wide Web, who are the spiders and who are the flies?” ― Blake Janssen

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10 comments:

  1. I love that your dad's recitations, even with the slightly spooky 'Spider and the Fly' line, have become such a sweet, daily anchor to your childhood. What a wonderful legacy.

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  2. I don't think I've ever seen a funnel web spider, do we even have them here, not sure. I've only ever mostly seen daddy longlegs, huntsman or money spiders.

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  3. I am actually scared of spiders. but this little guy looks so cute

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  4. No, you don't get them. Just us....of course. Ha!

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  5. Hello Lydia,
    It is a cute spider, love the photos and the flowers.
    Thank you for linking up and sharing your post. Take care, have a great week ahead. PS, thank you for leaving me a comment.

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  6. You made me smile and we don't mess with the spiders here either. That spider is a cutie pie.

    Thank you for joining the Awww Mondays Blog Hop.

    Have a fabulous Awww Monday and week. ♥

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  7. Hi Lydia, great captures of the spiders! Your Dad reciting poems reminds me of my Mum who used to always come out with some doozy quotes and phrases and yes, also poems! Some from her mother and some that was drummed into her at boarding school! Thank you for linking up with us at #WWWhimsy xo

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  8. It's lovely to have your Dad's words pop back into your head. And to remember those times. I am doing a lot of listening to my style of music as I play a game on the Ipad and I am my father's daughter and was always remember hearing his music at home. I can still see the record player..and the stereo system too.

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    1. It's interesting that these inconsequential moments are the memories of them that drap over us like a cloak, providing warmth & comfort.

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  9. I'm with you. I can mostly cope with spiders but magpies do my head in!

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