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Saturday, 30 May 2015

7 words

I've written before about my love for Kurt Vonnegut. I am amazed you can live through what he did and come out the other side a 'humanist' of such kind and generous proportions.

I won't repeat what I discussed in the Unusual Discourse on Love, but I was struck with the simplicity and remarkable truth of this quote, that I wanted to share again. In Jailbird, he says that a friend summed up what he's written several books about into seven words "Love may fail, but courtesy will prevail"

In all your interactions, but especially with those closest to you, treat them with the courtesy you would a stranger.

It's a very simple truth and yet more often than not, we treat the ones closest to us with the most indifference and ill-mannered emotion. We are careless with those we love most, for want of a better word.

See if that extra kindness makes a difference, and as you go about your day, make all your interactions make the other person's day a little brighter, from the barista to your husband (and especially your button pushing teen!!).

And so it goes.

Linking up with #FYBF and later, #WeekendRewind


11 comments:

  1. Too true! I am a firm believer in this. Nothing irks me more than extended family who treat other family members like trash. Respect and courtesy as you say. x

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  2. I love that quote "love may fail, but courtesy will prevail". It's true that we can often be snarky to those closest to us while we would never interact that way with a stranger. It's a good point to be aware of!!

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  3. Oh that is so true, and a really good thing to be reminded about. I know I am guilty of treating my loved-ones with less than the respect and care they deserve.

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  4. It is easy to take that unconditional love for granted, and abuse it. Thanks for that reminder.

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  5. Yep, guilty. I think all generations have done it, but in a different way, too. It might also be a 'chicken and egg' thing too, with the whole button-pushing thing happening from all sides. A nice reminder, though. Thanks Lydia.

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  6. Absolutely true. A great reminder :)

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  7. I agree. We often take those we love for granted.

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  8. I'm going to be attentive to everyone all day now. It's true we do treat our closest with casual familiarity.

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  9. I sometimes share with my unmarried friends that I think a good marriage is able understanding that whilst you can sometimes not actually like the person very much {because of silly things like not taking the bins out or coming home late when you have screaming children}, you actually always love them and because we love them, we often take our frustrations out on them - which is bad.

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  10. What an amazing insight from Vonnegut's friend. I also think your words are amazingly insightful: "we are careless with those we love most." It makes me think of how often people push the idea of " what would you do if you could get away with anything..." The way we treat our dearest is probably the biggest insight into who we really are of all. I hope it's pretty! x

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