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Friday, 12 October 2018

What I have learned lately (from Ladybird)

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See what I did there? So sneaky...
I watched Lady Bird on the plane over to Singapore. Great little film with a few pearls of wisdom.

1. "Money is not life's report card"
I have a friend who has hit a reversal of fortune, however, compared to MANY people I know, still doing way better than most. Instead of growing up in his world view, he seems still focused on (in my opinion) all the wrong things. Money makes life easier, and fun, and takes stress out of disaster but your focus still needs to be on relationships and those things that really matter. I am amazed at people I know who have so much yet don't seem happy or fulfilled. A little more internal investment would help them much more than what's in their bank account.
With a child in their HSC year, it's interesting what occupations are coming up in conversations. Prestige in careers seems to be in a lot of parent's minds. It's sad. The child's desires are often dismissed. Surely what makes you happy and provides fulfillment is a good starting point. You can always chase the money after that...

2. 'Don't you think they're the same thing - love and attention?'
A very interesting point. Marriages fall apart when a spouse is neglected. Not paying attention to what matters to your partner will lead to loneliness. Not paying attention to children invalidates them. Perhaps attention is the best way to show our love?

3. When asked why she is crying, the response is 'Some people aren't built happy'. This broke my heart. Anyone who has tried to help someone with depression will know the pain of the illogical reasoning. You wish they could see themselves through your eyes. however, I do genuinely believe that they can be helped to be happy. It will take a long time and a lot of work, but it's a good reminder to those helpers not to dismiss the feelings. They aren't being selfish or self indulgent, they just aren't built happy.

Lastly, my favourite, when asked if she was any good at something, Lady Bird replies "Not that we are aware of yet". When trying something new, don't be daunted or presume you won't be good at it. You are simply unaware of your capabilities. Just because you haven't had success at your chosen enterprise, don't let that defeat you...YET.

Linking with #NotsowordlessWednesday #TheRandom #Lifethisweek #OpenSlather and #KCACOLS




22 comments:

  1. Sounds like a great movie. Adding this to my movie list. Thanks!

    #kcacols

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  2. I really really liked the Lady Bird movie! :) But then I also really like the actor hehe. She did a really good american accent I think, considering she's Irish. :D

    #KCACOLS

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    1. I thought both she and the mother were great.

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  3. I agree with "I am amazed at people I know who have so much yet don't seem happy or fulfilled." They surround themselves with STUFF. Stuff is like a sugar high. Great for a short time but then you need another hit. Gratitude is more of the low GI approach to happiness. Wanting what you already have rather than having to have what you want. Feeling like you're already "full".
    Great post Lyndall with the movie theme! Clever

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    1. I've now done 28 of them, over the years. But the last one was in March. I've become a very neglectful blogger of late....

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  4. I watched that movie last year (I think?) and it made me so sad in parts. I totally see your point about money not being everything, but their family struggle made me feel like it can be the key to not having that constant worry weight on your chest.

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  5. I like point #4. Clever post with the movie theme! #lifethisweek

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  6. I wanted to see this when it came out but missed it! Sounds great, thanks for reminding me about it!

    Di from Max The Unicorn

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  7. I was curious about this movie. Now I want to see it! #KCACOLS

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  8. Yes to catching up on films on the plane! I was also curious about Ladybird too. Will watch it on my next trip.

    SSG xxx

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  9. I haven't seen this movie but it does sound good. We can always learn new things can't we? Visiting from #Lifethisweek
    Debbie from debs-world.com

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  10. Sounds like a great movie. Going to check it out then next time I am looking for something to watch!

    #KCACOLS

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  11. I've been waiting to see this movie! This is the perfect thing to get me excited and ready to clear some to time to do exactly that.

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  12. I've yet to see this, I feel like I should now!

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  13. I used to think...and often return to the default that "everything" would be better if we finally had the money (inheritance) to buy our last house...and yet, there are so many reasons right now to be happy and grateful. I am a work in progress and again, thank you for making me think!! Hope HSC person is fine tomorrow. Then it is all good from there I can tell you. Just that first exam to get done. Thank you for joining #lifethisweek. Next week's optional prompt is Easy Meal Ideas. Denyse

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    1. I think we're all a work in progess, and if we aren't, then we're probably a failure not a success - not seeing our foibles is a flaw...

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  14. Hello Lydia,

    I love life lessons and I love these ones that you learned from Ladybird. It's true that in life, what's important is what matters most. And that includes family, relationships and helping others. It is also true that many still don't believe this. Like you, I don't think there are people who are built to be unhappy. Happiness just comes and goes.

    I'm visiting from #TheRandom.

    Best,
    Sigrid

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  15. This sounds like such an interesting film that poses as many questions as it answers. Will try and look it up #KCACOLS

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  16. I think I'll be adding this to my list to watch. But probably just for me. Not sure it's hubby's cup of tea. #kcacols

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  17. I've not heard of this film but want to track it down now, sounds like there are a few good messages to take away from it! x #KCACOLS

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  18. I've been meaning to watch this since it came out. It looks like something I'd really relate to. Sometimes I don't think I was built happy.

    #KCACOLS

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  19. I have not heard of this film. I will have to Google it. Thanks for sharing at The Wednesday Blog Hop :)

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