“The image that concerns most people is the reflection they see in other people's minds.” ― Edward De Bono

I was lucky enough to see Postmodern Jukebox on Friday, having decided I couldn't afford to go, a friend ended up with a spare ticket she gifted me. I really enjoy their playful renditions of songs. Always a great show.  (The guy we saw singing Umbrella is here)

 

However this is about bodies and beauty standards, but mainly about confidence.

There were three magnificent female singers, changing into all sorts of fitted evening dresses. At one point, I thought "I would never wear that on my body but they look great, so maybe I should stop caring about the bumps in the 'wrong' places" We are women, this is what women look like in real life. And these women looked beautiful.

So, last night I decided to wear a new fancy figure hugging dress that I got online for $49 but haven't had a chance to wear because it's quite OTT. One of the menopausal delights is my tummy seems to go up and down on a daily basis - some days I look pregnant, some days it's flattish. If I'm puffed up, I usually change into a 'fat' dress. Last night I didn't. I thought of those 3 ladies with different figures who looked beautiful in the same dress and decided I would just enjoy my dress. 

And I did. 

I honestly didn't think about it again, how it was showing my tummy or how big my butt must have looked in it.

“For the first time maybe ever, it didn't matter if I looked beautiful or not. I felt it.”
― Kiera Cass, Happily Ever After

At the Marilyn exhibition there is this quote, and it's something I'm really going to work on. Except I want to have courage to be loyal to the body I have that continues to allow me to have fun and make my way in the world.

Maybe confidence is where beauty lies, and it exudes over our face and body, adding a sheen just like make up?

I know he hates it but the whole world fell in love with Tom Holland for this, and I'm pretty sure it's because he commited to it 100% (he didn't laugh or camp it up) and he got the girl so big win for him. So many people say "I don't know why I love this so much" but I think it's not his look or dancing but his confidence that mesmerised everyone.

Will Ferrell told John C. Reilly that it didn't matter how stupid the role was, as long as you commit 100% to it, the laughs will work. And he shows that time & again - we are always laughing with him, not at him.

'When you have confidence, you can have a lot of fun. And when you have fun, you can do amazing things'. Joe Namath

And here's to doing amazing things!

Linking with #ConfidentTwosday