Tonight we head out bowling with my kids because I want to play laser tag with them (and there's bonus arcade games thrown in so it's a full children's party type deal. Ha!)
My husband got me lovely tulips. But this is not the Mother's Day celebrations I want to talk about.
Mother's Day is an incredibly painful time for lots of people. They have difficult relationships with their Mothers. They are estranged from their kids. They've suffered loss. They can't have kids. There are a million reasons why they choose not to celebrate or struggle to get through the day.
In a chat about the opt out emails from shops, a woman said "I know it's woke but I'm sick of them" because she felt everyone was sending them and my friend responded she was all for it because "Mother's Day is a sh!tshow". I personally am mindful of how many of my friends have a hard time, so I have a social media blackout that day - I posted about Finland playing Sandstorm in shops and on the radio at the same time on the same day to celebrate it's 20 year anniversary. I feel I don't want to add to anyone's discomfort. I was at my happy celebration, I shared it with the people I needed to share it with. In person.
I saw this post for the first time though it's apparently been around for years. It was shared by two of my friends having a hard day. for different reasons. I think there's plenty of food for thought in it.
Linking with #SeniorSalonPitstop #TalkaboutitTuesday #HappyNow (I know this is a little unhappy, but I had happy celebrations but I also get happiness feeling I'm not adding to anyone's stress or discomfort).
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I so sympathize with your comments about Mother’s Day. There are women who can’t have children, women who don’t miss their mothers at all, women who gave their children up for adoption. It can be a very painful time, for women and children (albeit grown up) all around. This is also true for Valentine’s Day, to some degree. I remember being recently widowed, in my thirties, and thinking, “How can I celebrate love?!” We take our tender feelings, I think, and soothe someone we know who needs it on these holidays.
ReplyDeleteYes, I feel I lose nothing in letting it slip by on the socials unheralded. I do the same for Father's Day too.
DeleteLydia, such an insightful post. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
ReplyDeleteEach one to himself/herself!
ReplyDeleteI do write up a recap on my blog but I make sure that is very clear in the title so those that need/want to bypass it can but I definitely don't put anything on Facebook or social media sites like that; trying to find that delicate balance can be tricky for sure. I definitely don't want to make anyone feel bad.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing and participating at SSPS 360 and sharing the SSPS image, this is awesome and much appreciatead. See you at #361
ReplyDeleteFor me Mother's day is too commercial. If you love your Mother you can show it the whole year. If not you won't celebrate.
ReplyDeleteGreetings from Amsterdam
Violetta
My family lives up in the northern part of the north island so I dont' get to see them that much but thankfully my parents were here briefly a few months ago.
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