Taking stock - March

Making : A mess, but that's better than nothing, I guess.

Drinking : Champagne, baby! There were left overs from the big milestone birthday.


Reading:My Grandmother Sends Her Regards and Apologises - not loving it, to be honest. It's okay.


Wanting: More time. Or maybe to be more organised? Just don't seem to be getting enough done. 

Look at me being a grown up!

 Looking: At my spending. I decided to cut back on concerts as last year was a little manic (a kind of weird therapy to deal with my father dying over a drawn out period). However, while I started well in Jan, only one concert and one festival, Feb has seen it creep up again and March and April have gone a little crazy....My aim is 2 a month, not 2 or 3 a week! Though last year I even did 2 in a night, so I guess I've improved on that! 






Enjoying: Living in Sydney. The arts and restaurants, the waterfront and the general tolerance and diversity of the people.




















Liking:Coriander & chilli in my breakfast omelette

Wondering: How people can say that we shouldn't say Pell is guilty until the end of the appeal. The expression is 'Innocent until Proven Guilty'. He was proven guilty. So he is guilty. No paperwork has even been lodged for an appeal yet. Guilty, full stop. Let's remember the victims and lives ruined for now. Let's stand by the poor children who had their lives destroyed by acts inflicted on them. Let's not turn our backs on them yet again.

Loving: That 2 of my kids seem to have got amazing teachers.Having already spent 12 years in the education system, I am not easily impressed. These 2 teachers appear to be way ahead of the norm. I can only hope the change in Government invests more in public education, both in resources and directly into the teachers pockets too. Human capital is not to be undervalued, if anything is to be learnt from Finland.

Hoping: A new Government as State level will undo the mistakes of the NSW Libs. And bring in pill testing. And not sell the Powerhouse.

Marvelling: Hopefully at Captain Marvel. I don't care what people say, I can't wait!

Needing: To exercise more. And use my bath house voucher I got for my birthday. I went last night and felt like a million dollars! Have 2 more visits...can't wait!

Thinking: About how it was possible to poison the drinking water in Flint in the USA. It was not terrorism, it was allegedly the government, and greed. How can that be? In a Western country with all the 'safety' checks in place? Can it really be possible? And then think about what's happening here with the fracking and the reef. Could they knowingly destroy our water? Could they risk public safety for a buck?

Opening: These little psychology snacks from Intangible Goods. (Available at the Mini Mart in Petersham until the end of March). Got some to give to friends instead of cards.

Feeling: Very lucky to have such magnificent friends. The thought that went into the gifts (even though I said no gifts!) and the effort put into dressing up for my Baz Lurhmann party was sensational. Everyone looked so wonderful. I feel very loved, at the moment, and it was nice to give a little back to my village.

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“The only stable state is the one in which all men are equal before the law.” ― Aristotle

This year's Mardi Gras sees us celebrate a step further in equality (though there is still that pesky school issue, and while they say they have never told children they aren't welcome for being LBGTQI, there is a private school near me that has been taking in those same children after they've been encouraged to leave. Teachers talk.)

However, as we wait for our PM to do what he promised to do (and let's face it, the right thing), let's celebrate  we are moving slowly to a more inclusive society. Let's remember how far we have come and be thankful we aren't like some countries that appear to be moving backwards in this area.

“Thought
Of equality- as if it harm'd me, 
giving others the same chances
and rights as myself- 
as if it were not indispensable 
to my own rights 
that others possess the same.” 
― Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass



(Or the short version - equal rights for others doesn't mean less rights for you. It's not pie).

Happy Mardi Gras everyone.

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My favourite things

I've had a pretty sensational weekend - Starting Thursday night, dancing with Aloe Blacc at the zoo, and tiffan for lunch made by a Thai lady (so delicious!).

Squeezing in the exhibition at Carriageworks by Nick Cave (the artist, US) which is well worth a look if you can get there before it closes on the weekend.















Friday night saw some Mah Jong with some fabulous friends, always an enjoyable evening.















Saturday we took to the driving range before lunch, with much hilarity and then a rainy afternoon bath.

My husband and I went to Eddie Izzard's Wunderbar - which I found delightful (my husband didn't laugh once...guess it was too whimsical for him). It was in the gorgeous State Theatre that still amazes me in it's beauty.

Another family lunch on Sunday, but this time, one down, as is becoming our norm with the very busy Uni student.












A girlfriend and I headed out to Ultra. I'll be honest, having seen 2 of the acts before, I thought they were a little 'down' (perhaps too much partying in Melbourne the night before or the staging didn't work as well for them?) But I still had fun, though I got so much dust in my lungs I'm still coughing!

This morning I woke very happy but feeling my age and in physical pain as I apparently used a lot of usually dormant back muscles  when I dance!

It's back to reality, but fortunately, while a little dull and mundane, my reality is still pretty good and my mood is elated.

Happiness is indulging in your favourite things, when you can. Art, music, dancing, food, laughs and friends & family - they all make me smile. Do more of what makes you happy.


(Note to those of you in the US and UK, this is a real Sydney weekend! Love this town!)




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The Best Decade?

This was a hard prompt to answer. My automatic response is the 1920's for the fabulous fashion. I would have loved to have got round in the feathers and sequins and tasseled dresses. Also the drop waisted daily wear suits me. They were also mad for dancing. We don't dance enough these days, if you ask me.



We saw Eddie Izzard last night (apologies if I've not got the pronouns right, just googled and 'he' predominated), and he raised a point that we were like in the 1930's again, and we all know how great that worked out for everyone. Later on, he stated that we would either wipe ourselves out off the planet completely in the next 80 years if we continued the way we did (in it's destruction) or we needed to stand up and insist on change (environmentally, economically etc). It's an interesting concept and I think he's probably unfortunately right. We can make it better for everyone, or we will end it all.

As for me personally? I'm very much of the La Cage Aux Folles song mindset. The best of times is now.

'The best of times is now
As for tomorrow, well, who knows?'

There are always difficult times but I think I'm probably stronger and better at handling them (so much practice by this age!).

'Now, not some forgotten yesterday
Now, tomorrow is too far away'

Things are easy with the internet, we travel more, we can do more*, musically we can reach more artists of our choosing than ever before** and we can stay in contact with our friends around the world with ease. When the problems arise, it's easier to get help - medical or emotional. People are more accepting and tolerant of difference. We're better educated in terms of diversity or disability (generally speaking). We are making life easier and happier for more and more & more people on the planet. Equality is slowly creeping into the lives of a myriad of minorities. Still a long way to go but this all has to be an improvement on what went on in the preceding decades.

It is up to us, I guess. If we want this decade to be our best one, we need to make it so. Like the song says:

"So hold this moment fast
And live and love
As hard as you know how
And make this moment last
Because the best of times is now, is now"

What do you see as the best decade?

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*Last night at the State theatre, I was discussing how as a kid I went to see the Disney film Snow White there and I was amazed at how beautiful the building was, and how it seemed like a magical palace, as prior to that I'd only seen movies put on at the Macquarie Uni hall. My husband pointed out the rise of the suburban cinema came much later. Now we have the luxury of 3 different multiplexes pretty much in walking distance from our home!

** I am in LOVE with Spotify. As someone who listens to music in other languages, I am getting suggestions to amazing artists I would never have found. Last week, Spotify sent me an email. Two artists I like were performing near me (weirdly it thinks I live in Sylvania but I guess nothing is perfect). I would have missed these concerts but have now booked myself tickets. One is the glorious Eric Bibb, who I've been seeing every time he comes to the country. We have a luxury in our connectedness to stay informed on both the biggest news and smallest of pleasures.

Expressions of Love - Love is all around

Valentine's Day in Sydney seems to see the shops festooned with these...however, as mentioned before, Valentine's Day now competes with the Lunar New Year, which seems to be a larger commercial success for the shopping centres and businesses so the lanterns and other decorations overshadow the hearts and roses these days. A tradition I like because it is more inclusive of the single and recently divorced people...













We had dinner at home but walked up the road to have a cocktail, play some Banangrams and pacman. Was home again in forty minutes, but all in all a great night. Expressions of love aren't in the money spent, but the enjoyment had.

With a party on the weekend, I was busy organising and this is my favourite photo! Totally Baller! The party was a way to thank my 'village', the people that have got me through my life so far - those who run in to rescue me when I need it, or those who just turn up to make the good times happen.

The minute Valentine's Day is over in Sydney, the Mardi Gras decorations come out. Expression of love of a different kind. Marking a protest, it's now a celebration of acceptance and pride. Remember, diversity is being asked to the party, inclusion is being asked to dance. While there still seems to be a lot of jerks in parliament (and 32 certain schools), most of Sydney just wants to dance, with everybody.

Happy Mardi Gras, celebrate your friends and share the love - which ever applies.

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Self care

I've written a lot about this (What lifts me up when I'm down) - there's a lot of low costs ways to keep on an even keel, and it time poor, there's way to build it in with other activities, like driving or walking to your next appointment. While it seems to always be the thing to go first, you need to always remember, you can't pour from an empty cup. You need to reset your emotions, and be strong to deal with life's rough seas.

Music is a big pick up for me. Be it singing along in the car (and you have to sing loudly), or seeing a live gig. I've found dancing really elated my spirits, so with a live music venue up the road, I even sometimes go as 'an exercise class' - just turn up, dance, go home. Playing music in the shower is my new start to the day and really set me off with a bounce.

Upping the exercise is a big one - frequent exercise has the same effect as an antidepressant, so if time poor, I try to steal 20 mins on the exercise bike at home. Ideally the bay run with a friend while we download our problems is a great destressor if there's a little more time.

Helping others - this is a strange one, but I think your problems loom so large, but when you set about helping others, it puts them back into perspective. When I did my 'share the dignity - it's in the bag' shopping, it really gave me a buzz, and helping a friend makes you feel better (and they feel better) so it's wins all round.

Our minds race ahead at quantum speeds, so we are anticipating every terrible outcome when we hit stumbling blocks. Being present in the moment slows that down, and helps calm us. I've found looking for photograph set ups is a good way to appreciate the little things. I notice the 'good light' as the sun goes down, the pretty flowers in the street, the strange and funny things that abound around us. You don't need extra time for this - the walk to school, the trip to the shopping centre, picking the kids up from soccer. It's just noticing what's around you in your daily activities.

Audio books - if you aren't getting time for the therapeutic book in the bath, or even to read, then audio books as you drive are the perfect way to 'read' new books and treat yourself. I was driving for two and half hours each day when visiting Dad in the hospital as he slowly died over a number of months. It was physically draining and distressing. However, if I listened to great books, I would not only be emotionally better on arrival at the hospital (my thoughts had been distracted), but the time in the car was barely noticeable, because I was enjoying it! I've said it before, but Augusten Burrough's 'This is How' really got me through a difficult time, and I was able to make the most of my visits with Dad. They are all my family is a really brilliant story. But your library will have plenty, new and old to choose from.

Ideally we have time to go for a swim in a beautiful outdoor pool, or run on the beach, or even the time it takes to go to the gym and do a class but often we don't. So these are great self care methods for me while I'm still doing the tasks I need to do.

What do you do for self care?

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Loving Books, Loving Life.

I've had a lot of things to do and places to be this week, so the highlight for me has been the audio books in the car. I've ploughed through both Educated by Tara Westover for bookclub which I found very stimulating on ideas of history and personal narrative, and how fluid the 'truth' is and The Last Days of August by Jon Ronson (Please note trigger warnings on subject matter re suicide and abuse. It's very sad but in a similar vein to Serial, and just fascinating).

There's something so invigorating when you feel the need to devour a book - I even listened to The Last Days of August while exercising as I knew I couldn't finish when the kids were around and I 'needed' to get to the end.

Next up will be One for the Trouble, a collection of short stories. Sometimes the books in the car is what gets me through the difficult or mundane days.

When I don't have time to sit and read, I love the momentum of audio books (in the car or while I'm cooking) to keep me stimulated.

Do you listen to audio books? What are you currently reading?

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PS I just finished the audio verison of Remains of the Day and it is brilliantly read. I loved it so much!